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I have had to change my main therapist and lots of other things too, with issues probably too triggering to go into right now. Thing is, I like my new therapist, but the real life issues are huge, like food, housing, legal etc. with elder abuse, domestic violence, police brutality, abuse of someone disabled, and other really big issues all at stake.
I just don't know anymore what to do, who can help, how I even start. |
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Department of Human Services to start, maybe?
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Yes, sounds like a lot. Therapy might help you deal with these things, or develop ways to deal with these kinds of things, over a long-term, but right away? Right now, when you have to deal with them? Some kind of real-world, social services help does seem like a good place to look. People with experience with these kinds of things, who know other agencies that you might talk with, too, and maybe some strategies that might help.
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You are absolutely right. Therapy is very limited in how much it can help if the social and economic conditions in which people live are harmful and don't change. If you're dealing with so much right now, you might need social services more than therapy.
This was a big problem in all places I worked at as an intern. The population we served was trying to survive on the basic level. They were dealing with so many socio-economic stressors, as well as legal problems that therapists often had to perform the functions of social workers, which wasn't their job. This is such a broken system. |
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Thanks, the system is broken. Many systems if not almost all. I watched Eat Pray Love last night to just use my DBT skills and distract. I don't have a TV so it was something I had on my old laptop, which I hardly remember the plot of. It turns out to be a good choice, though the person was not having the serious issues at the same basic level of existence. The emotions were closer and the healer in the movie that she helps is more like where I am. At some point I had a strong feeling that I could no longer allow my situation to even continue let alone escalate. I did have a therapy session and realized too that there are really deep reasons why such things have happened over time and that I have not stopped them, accepted them as somehow normal, accepted blame when it wasn't my fault, and will need a strong therapist to recover, or even see that I deserve to have the basics of human rights and existence. In that way, the therapy is essential. Yes, I need food and legal advice, protection and a whole lot of services, but I can only ask for such things if I believe I am entitled as a human being. If I have never experienced that, I can't.
It's such a hard thing for so many to understand, yet I know so many either on the streets or in other countries who know exactly what I mean. Not all of us are allowed the existence all humans are born with. Many are denied it, if not most, and we are seeing more of that in this country, but I know it from other places and other people. Someone once said we are born with a passport. For many it is taken away by schools and teachers training and culture parents and pressures. At some point many of us forget we ever had one, a birthright, but very few of us have the courage to reapply to get a new passport. |
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