[SarahSweden]

I don´t know what my former therapist does during Christmas and New Year´s eve but my thoughts about her celebrating and spending time with her family and friends still makes me feel sad and a bit envious.

This therapist terminated me in September and I´m still mourning and thinking about her holiday plans make me feel she doesn´t think about me any longer as she´s surrounded by both family and friends.

I think holidays create an even deeper feeling of being forgotten by her.

[Ididitmyway]

Holiday season is well known to increase depressed mood in people. Anyone with a some kind of unresolved heart ache feels sad during holidays. It's normal.

[sarahsweets]

What is termination? Is it related to something personal or is it like an insurance thing? Or is it like reaching the end of some goals?

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

What is termination? Is it related to something personal or is it like an insurance thing? Or is it like reaching the end of some goals?

“Termination” means therapist permanently stopped seeing you. It could be for various reasons: insurance limitations, therapist moved on to something else or retired or therapy was no longer needed and sometimes client needs different type of service that therapist can no longer provide.

[DP_2017]

I'm dealing with it too, sadly my T knew for quite a while about my life long jealousy issues but we never dealt with them, so with him gone, It's the worst it's ever been. I actually HATE those people

[winterblues17]

I'm going through termination too and have also struggled with the holiday season. Last holiday I struggled in the sense I missed her on the break away and wondered if she was having a nice time away from work etc, but I was also relatively safe within knowing that come the new year she would be back and things would quickly go back to normal. Last Christmas/new year time I believe is when we had the closest bond for a few reasons, so all while I missed her over the break, I clung to that!
This year however has been completely different, my level of care towards her is still as strong as ever, however she is leaving me and obviously the bond I felt wasn't really so strong or real. Last year I was able to send an email mid way and she replied, this year nothing. I have spend the whole season sicker than I've ever felt, back and forth to the doctors but apart from that generally alone, a few other things have also happened, and all I wanted was the safe, caring T, just to send a few words of encouragement, but no nothing!
So here I am a year on from the last, feeling lost and alone, without a place to turn. Feeling like a bird being pushed out the nest without wings.

[justbreathe1994]

I don’t really know what to say, other than I’m in the same boat and I’m really sorry you’re struggling.

You’re not alone in feeling this way.

Well, the holidays are now ~over I wish you healing in the New Year, Sarah!

I don't understand why arbitrary times of the year make the pain worse, other than reasons of sentimentality I mean.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by SorryOozit

I don't understand why arbitrary times of the year make the pain worse, other than reasons of sentimentality I mean.

I think it might be because this time of the year some therapists are gone for longer stretches of time due to holidays