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View Poll Results: Would you wish your ex-T on New Year's? | ||||||
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5 | 25.00% | |||
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15 | 75.00% | |||
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#1
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It's that time of that year again. Except this time I am not in therapy.
I did not end on a bad note with any of my therapists. However, I do not know if I would like to disturb them again. I have been thinking about wishing them through a text/email on new year's for more than a month now. However, upon introspection, I have found a strong underlying desire to be in regular contact with them again. I was pretty attached to all of them, so I find it unsurprising. Sadly, at least 2 of them, whom I was most attached to, would flatly refuse due to it being "unfeasible". Do you wish ex-Ts on new years? Would you do it this year? |
#2
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Well I don't have any contact info for mine anymore... or yes I would
However, IF he updates his linked in as he promised me... and I get another dog by next Christmas, I plan to send him a holiday card to his work, so he can see I have a dog. Otherwise, I wont bother him until the following Christmas, when 2 years has passed and I'm "allowed to"
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Quote:
By "allowed to", do you also mean you would attempt to build a relationship out of the clinic? |
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I have contact information for 1 x therapist
I don't know if I will yet maybe she does always say she wants to hear from me and how I'm getting on |
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#5
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He said i have to wait 2 yrs to contact him at all. I just plan to reach out and see what, if anything, happens after....but I'm definitely open to stuff. He's no longer a t so it might be easier in a sense
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#6
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If you would, would you email or text? Does she reply?
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#7
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He is no longer your T or has he stopped his practice?
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#8
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He's given up the profession all together
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#9
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I wouldn’t contact an ex-T. I will definitely wish my current T a happy new year. Just like I sent him a text today and said merry Christmas.
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I've thought about getting in touch with a therapist from long ago, who I ended on very good terms with. Nothing to do with New Years specifically, but I've been considering it from time to time for years. I have her current email address, and I think she'd respond well to a message updating her on what I'm up to, saying I'm doing well, thanking her for helping make my current successes possible. I always stop myself before actually doing it though, because while I'm mostly sure I'd be fine with whatever response or lack of response I got, I'm not entirely sure.
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#11
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I do not have a living ex-T but unless it were a situation where we agreed upon occasional contact after we stopped working together I would not contact them for a reason like that.
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I won't go out of my way. New Year's isn't that big a deal to me. But if we happen to cross paths I certainly will. We
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#13
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Why would you not?
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i've remained in occasional and casual contact with my ex-T since ending over a year and a half ago and we have had a handful of casual meetups as well. plus hubby tends to pop into ex-T occasionally on the morning train ride into town for work and they often fill some of that time chatting (hubby was quite involved in my therapy and joined me for my sessions for 2.5 years and is why he knows ex-T as well). regardless of this, i most likely will not text ex-T to wish him a happy new years. the only 'holiday' i tend to send a warm wishing text to T will be his birthday. it's something i have done for years (even as a client) and for me it feels more endearing because it is his special day.
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Do I wish ex-T what for New Years? I wish him something all-right.
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#16
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I said no. New Years isn't a big deal to me, and I sent former T a Merry Christmas text and didn't get a response and frankly, I wanted one, even though I have no right to expect one, I still wanted one. So I don't plan on sending a New Year's text. It will just hurt me more if there is no response. Kit.
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#17
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No. Whatever sort of year a therapist experienced had nothing to do with me
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#18
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I used to, but I am no longer in contact with my ex-T
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#19
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I wished two ex Ts. Got one response. How did it go for you guys?
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