Twice a week chat.

So I went today. Thought I'd go back to Thursday as well.
But T said "im trying not too work Thursdays now. What's wrong with Mondays and Wednesday?"

So these are the days I will do.
I asked T if she's going into semi retirement?

She said "well, I'm not taking on any new clients now. Plus I have some in supervision that when their courses finish they will leave also"

Then she quickly added "and I'm not pushing anyone to leave and I'm never going to ask you to leave, unless I get to a point where I can't remember you"

To which I replied "I may reach that stage first lol"

But yeah,, the words "I am never going to ask you to leave" are in my mind and giving a warm glow.

She's a cool woman. When she starts something, she dam well sees it through.

Has she written any books?

She's considering it.

I would love to see your T. If she's not taking any new clients that's definitely out then. The commute from Scotland was also a problem. I'd like to read her book.

As was the commute from michigan! Maybe if they bring back the Concord. Altho theres really nothing keeping me here...

😂😂
Leaving on a jet plane, don't know when I'll be back again.

Well. Maybe after a 50 min session?

Is your t a fan of mentalizing? Is that how she comes up with this stuff that relates so directly to YOU? Its a step beyond what anybody else here reports, IMO. My t will recite some rote lecture on some psych theory if i push for it, but your t goes jessica + psych = jessych 🤯 (in a good way).

She never uses terminology. She uses very simple down to earth language. I think because of her involvement with children with special educational needs, she's attuned to putting things in the most simplest way possible so that it can be heard above all the internal static.

Hmm. Maybe i just had resistance to hearing it from my own ts. But it seems like i hear something ADDITIONAL (caps intentional!) from your t. A step beyond. Thats why i love her so much

Eta - like your Incalculable thread. She REMEMBERED (big one there!) but not just remembered what a parent did. She assimilated it, she processed it, she FIGURED OUT its effect on you and WHAT YOU ACTUALLY DO because of it. No human t does that.

Eta 2 - THAT is the process i am wondering is peter fonagy's "mentalizing". Its a british thing, not to much an american thing, AFAIK.

Eta 3 - sorry to be pestering you! I read about mentalizing about ten years ago, and i remember scoffing about it to my t saying, "isnt that just 'doing it right?'" I should have listened to myself back then!

I think this is what as known as "using her whole self"
Thats how she does, it. She feels it first then expresses it.

That helps, thanks.