T in bathrobe

This is why i suggested the comparison to jessica11's t, who said j was the client she would never stop seeing until she couldnt remember who she was.

IMO, that is all that granite's t is communicating with continuing to see her, that she isnt abandoning her or their many many years of work together.

People arent machines. I understand its easy to say this isnt following the letter of the law.

I agree with artley wilkins, another old timer on pc, this is a much more open hearted side of granite. Maybe this vulnerability is working for you as a therapeutic pair. Like Lonesome Tonight talks about always seeing the t as an authority figure. After my main rupture with t, therapy changed also.

Dr Phil talks of family being your soft place to land. Some of us havent had that, and t may be our first. He was mine. Not REALLY, but psychically.

I think the concept that she might be behaving in this way to purposely affect you is interesting. I have no idea if that may be true. What do you think? Is that the type of thing she might do?

For me personally, I wouldn't be bothered much by the things themselves as for what they possibly represented. I would be worried that a therapist who had recently started working from home was doing these things for the wrong reasons. Like, instead of just losing track of time, being more relaxed, etc., that she is taking her job less seriously and maybe not even seeing it as a real job. If she's not feeling towards it like a job, then what would that make me and why would I be paying for it?

In the end, I think you're going to have to go with weigh things out for yourself. Take into account your feelings, how those feelings might be influenced by your negative experiences, and your history with this therapist. You are perfectly right to be concerned about her behavior. But you also don't need to jump ship right away just because the stuff she's been doing is odd for a therapist. You could keep an eye on the situation for a bit and see how it develops. Observe if she is as attentive to you in session as before, if she is on top of things in the actual sessions - basically monitor the quality of your therapy in comparison to before she moved to her home.

I paid therapists dearly. I expect their full focus and professionalism, with shoes on. A session isn't their cocoa, blankie, Netflix-on-the-couch time. They're at work no matter the office location. My career needed no accreditation, but my colleagues and I were at best dress and full alert when clients visited the office. Likewise my private music teacher, who had lessons at her house, was dressed, professional and structured.

A relative told me of a therapist who wouldn't let her talk until he prepared his pipe and plopped his feet on the desk. She submitted at the time, but was furious in retrospect.

I think therapy should be a "safe place to land," for the client, and the therapist is there to do her job. I'd find anything less disrespectful. And yes, I'm a hard...hinny about this.

It is worth pointing out, though, that what makes people feel safe differs from person to person. I don't know how I'd feel about this bathrobed therapist, as it seems rather over the top. However, I also wouldn't be very comfortable with one of those therapists who dresses really formally. Sometimes I look like a bum when I go to therapy, so it would make me even more self conscious if the therapist was dressed to the nines.

This is SO not about the bathrobe!

This is not a poll question, should a t wear a bathrobe to session, y/n?

But i can see why people got confused
tl;dr

No. That is off the scale.