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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:10 PM
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mom just took her first shower after surgery

I had to help undress and dry her off and redress her

I'm extremely trigger3ed on the porch trying to not start crying!!

I'm just helping her!! it's not wrong or bad!!! it's fine!!!!!
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:11 PM
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I can't start crying I just can't
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:12 PM
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Hugs, JDNA. You can get through this.
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:14 PM
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Hugs JD , it isn't wrong or bad , it's fine. Remember the butterfly hug from yesterday ? The porch is a fine place to do it.
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:15 PM
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I called my therapist phone to hear his voice mail
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Sorry its hard for you

Of course you are helping her. As someone recovering from surgery too, I can tell you all help is appreciated. So even though its hard, you did good.
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Hugs JD , it isn't wrong or bad , it's fine. Remember the butterfly hug from yesterday ? The porch is a fine place to do it.
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:16 PM
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:22 PM
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Here's some nice energy coming over the internet just for you. {{ JD }}
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:28 PM
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((jD))

Helping someone with basic self-care tasks is challenging no matter what, and you've got so many extra layers and tangles to cope with on top of it. You are strong and brave. Sending thoughts of peace your way. You've got this.
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 04:46 PM
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This is a very important part of life -- caretaking like this. You're not only not doing something wrong, you're doing something very very kind and caring and selfless.
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 05:57 PM
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Provided you feel safe doing this for your mother, no it isn't bad or wrong, it is just helping her. Kudos to you bc NO way could I do that for my mother!
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 06:27 PM
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You are so brave to help that way JDNA. Calling your therapist to hear his voice is good- he really cares about you.
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 06:31 PM
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You ARE strong and brave!

need hugs.. trigger warning

Sending you a hug! need hugs.. trigger warning
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Old Mar 01, 2019, 08:03 PM
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So sorry JD. I was a personal attendant for a while in college and really struggled some times too. One person I worked with used to bathe with a T shirt on that we washed under but it gave her privacy. Don’t know if that might help or not.
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