How do I bring it up?

How do I bring it up in therapy that I'm not sure that I totally trust my T? She told me that if I leave a message for her that she is to call me back she will and I did and she didn't so now I feel she violated me trust and I want to tell her but am scared to. How do I tell her without coming across like a hurt little child? I don't want to make her mad but I think it needs to be addressed. Any suggestions? I see her today in a couple of hours.

Jbug

How about saying, "I'd like to go over your phone policy again. When we spoke before you said you could return my call if I left you a message, but I did leave a message earlier this week and never heard back. I want to make sure I understood your policy. Should I not count on a call back from you? I would really like to know, because if it is not your policy to return calls, then I won't leave a message."

How does that sound? You just want to get her policy straight so you do not set yourself up for rejection by calling and not getting a response. I think it's very reasonable!

I'd make sure she got the call. Could be something wrong with her phones or other "good" excuse why she didn't call you back. When did you call; if it was like last night and you're seeing her today and she wasn't able to call you last night, I would imagine since she's seeing you today she wouldn't call. But if it was last week or something, then I'd "assume" she didn't get the message and would check that first. If she got the message she's going to go into details why she didn't call back but if she didn't get the message. . . it doesn't really count; then you can just mildly say you were disappointed because you asked her to call you back. It's okay to be disappointed! Everyone is. It doesn't have anything to do with whether she's a T or how "old" you are, etc. You are allowed to want what you want and to be disappointed if you don't get it.

How did it go? I hope it was productive.

BB