If you quit therapy...

Or how can you get your T to be more helpful in tackling those goals? What could they be doing differently and can they move away from the concept of rehashing your past?

How much directing do you do in your sessions? I pretty much completely run the show, so if I didn't want to talk about my past but wanted to talk about x method of dealing with something or seeing if she'd be willing to work through trigger journals with me to find patterns... what not, she'd probably be on board. Don't know about your T.

In the end, it's your dime, if the T you hire can be helpful then use him (or one of them) if not, try it on your own. You could also decrease the frequency of your sessions to see how going it alone would work for you, are you able to work on those things you list in the way you think you should without someone there for guidance or accountability?

My last therapist was well-trained in trauma and dissociation, and I was referred to her by an internationally known consultant and trainer who lives in my area. What I think was missing from their approach was an understanding of, and an approach for dealing with what I think about, for myself, as a traumatized sense of self. I understand about dissociated parts and can identify them, in myself. The traumatized sense of self is something different. . .similar in ways, but different.

I don't see any therapy out there that I know of that can handle both. Anybody out there who thinks their method does, I invite discussion on another thread, if you like.

But, considering the distinction, if it may be one for anybody else reading this, may be useful. Eventually maybe the shrinks will even get on board with it. But for anybody trying to live a life now. I for one can't wait around for them to do it.

I didn't say get over it. Was saying the difficult work of dealing with painful stuff can be part of life (for some people), rather than something separate you purchase. It's considered sacrilege to even suggest such a thing.

I have trouble getting out of bed due to severe chronic fatigue. There are some traumatic experiences that could be feeding this, but I think other issues are primary. The MH system wants to link all impairments and symptoms to emotional and psychological conflicts. This is quackery and tunnel vision.

I quit for several years after 20+ years of useless therapy attempts. I had some vague idea of a goal I needed to work on and it was relentlessly haunting me. The pain of needing to grow finally got bigger than the fear of another bad therapy experience. So... after a 4 year break I found Awesome T. Now I know how much my other experiences were lacking and we are making progress.