To complain / Not to complain - Unethical Therapists

ugh....

what a way to f' with your head some more!

you were all too kind to send him a nice email back. sounds like the only intentions he has are selfish ones to feed his own needs, as you already pointed out. best to stay away from the likes of him....

i too have had contact with my ex-T after terminating, although they have been meetings in public places, and not in his office or official therapy sessions that i paid for. he was especially keen to meet after i had requested my session notes. when i first asked for them, his reaction was to question what reason i needed them for and i suspect he thought i had intentions to use them to against him in a complaint. we met a couple times to discus them. he genuinely seemed interested and concerned about what i shared and had to say, but at the same time, he wanted to use the meetings to share with me all the new training and improvements he had been doing since i left. he also threw in a story about how a client who ended three years prior had contacted him out of the blue via email to share his gratitude and how helpful therapy had been for him.

i went to these meeting for my own personal reasons of getting closure. i did get what felt like a sincere apology for many of the muck ups he made, and that really is all i was needing to help me put this experince behind me. but i did find it quite interesting at how he felt that he had to try and prove and defend himself at times. due to this, it has allowed me to see parts of him that i suspected existed when i was in therapy, but couldn't fully see until i stepped away and saw him from an entirely new perspective. i was finally seeing the real him and not the one i created or thought i had imagined through the enmeshment, projections, and transference that happened in therapy.

Thanks , I needed some validation today as I've been running through the whole spectrum of feelings this has stirred up.

At the moment I'm on GO TO HELL ! GO DIRECTLY TO HELL! DO NOT PASS GO ! DO NOT COLLECT £200!

I was feeling crap earlier , but just been on a walk in the park with my friend and her dog , saying to her how let down I feel.

hey...sorry for reviving a zombie thread, but jDNA, I wanted to ask...they took your hard drive because there was a criminal case involved, right? I ask because I'm considering filing a complaint against my ex-therapist, but I'm sooo not comfortable w/ them taking my computer hard drive...

If the complaint was to the board and didn't involve a criminal matter, they won't take my hard drive, right?

What happened to me is not illegal in my state, so no there was no criminal investigation. They took my hard drive because I had provided over 200 emails exchanged from my therapist. They had to prove that they weren't fabricated due to the severity of my complaint

Ugh.
I, also, have over 200 emails (probably more like over 1,000) not to mention the texts (again, probably over 1,000) I pulled out of my Mac's archive files.

My complaint isn't as severe, but now I'm scared. I don't want to turn over my mac.

What exactly is your concern with them verifying things thru your hard drive

Um...to be honest? And probably they won't care or maybe even look for it at all, but... porn watching/searching/erotic story reading history? That's really it. It's just embarrassing. And private. -.-

EDIT: oh, right, and I have my email history with my current therapist in there too. Our relationship is 1,000,000% ethical, but it's still hard to be like..."yes, I still require a shitcrapton of support from my therapist." But I guess I just have to be willing to be embarrassed.

Edit again: And labeled as borderline, which is a really strong possibility.

My ex-therapist already has a complaint and disciplinary action against him, and that woman's borderline personality disorder was seemingly blamed for a lot. I mean, fine, label me borderline. I guess whatever...I'm just going to have to be willing to be embarrassed.

You can easily clear your browsing history, just make sure to do it in all the browsers you have used. But I wonder how many people these days don't have a good deal of various private device use histories that they wouldn't want to advertise? My guess is very few.

My T lost his position and at our last session, he tried to guilt me into starting a go fund me for T. I know T desperately needs the money. I have already anonymously given T some for a car repair. I feel manipulated. I feel I need to stop seeing this person but feel guilty because of the situation. I am unemployed but have savings.

I still can’t believe this, I read your story awhile back and it’s just insane that this isn’t considered criminal :/

Yes it's pretty sad . I wish I could have the energy to fight for awareness and possibly change this in my state. But I just dont have the energy in me ...

Thank you

I am borderline,and my emails at the time were obviously all about my relationship with my therapist . They are looking for unethical behavior on your therapists part.

Hey JunkDNA,

I just contacted my local College of Psychologists and according to them, all interactions must be kept on record.

I can tell you right now that my abusers deleted very important emails that shed light on what actually happened. This is a pattern of behavior on their part and quite hilarious. Not only do they alter and falsify their health records to destroy the credibility of the survivors they abuse (they compartmentalize corruption as being self-preservation), they also delete emails knowing how they will play out in complaint processes and or lawsuits.

Have you been successful in proving that 200 emails are real?


Thanks,
HD7970ghz

Anyone currently filing complaints?