Couch 198: All the Countries Couch

Les beans

I think maybe the therapist is lesbian or bi. I visited her fb the other day and she had liked a page for a service described as "the leader in all-LGBT river cruises and land tours."

This seems like pretty strong evidence. She has not liked many things, so it seems unlikely this was just a passing like as a show of support or something. If she announces she is going on a cruise or visiting one of the destinations on this service's upcoming itinerary, I will close my case file on the subject.

It was 2 t shirts.

So agree on this thread idea! I'd be all over that.

Haven’t y’all been in therapy long enough to know it’s not about the t-shirts?

For the son it is about declaring independence from his mother.

For the girlfriend it is about confirming the son’s loyalty to her and not his mother.

For the mother it is about adjusting to her son growing up.

No one did anything wrong.

That’ll be 5 cents in 1913 nickels, please.

Eh, I would put it more like everyone did something wrong, and some more than others. The fact that they all had ulterior motives and were trying to assert some sort of base dominance just compounds the error.

Er, I neglected to mention that he took my stuff (still damp) out of the drier to put their stuff in, then when they took their stuff out again, left my wet stuff in a basket on the shelf and didn't put it back in. So I am maybe more upset that he's upset while I still have wet clothes.

But @@ I do get what you're saying... hadn't thought about it that way.

Base dominance?

Did you express that to him? It sounded like you were apologetic when he confronted you.

I'm always apologetic when confronted. I don't do confrontation...

The whole gf asserting her ownership over your son and your son asserting his independence from you. Very aanimalistc and working on an instinctual rather than intellectual level. And perhaps even you asserting something by taking 2 t-shirts out of the dryer and folding them.

Oh. They are staying in a hotel tonight. Or maybe you are, and they are paying for it.

Her t shirts, and some of son's clothes too that were dry.

In cats it is demonstrated by mounting behavior. Even among girl cats. Lesbicats.

Woah you is on a roll with your therapy game today.

When's your next first available slot?

wooop new couch.

Can I join the Ts away for the 4th party? Even though mine isn't technically going away, he's obviously off on the 4th and we haven't been doing Fridays this summer. And same for the week after...no Thursday or Friday.

Only costing you between $50 and $1500 USD.

We have had a name request.

I just realized couch after next will be 200. Party!

yeah pick before i go with a yankee candle name.

Sunset Fields
Warm Pineapple Upside Down Cake
Moonbeams on Pumpkins

Grilled Peaches & Vanilla

Somebody else asked right after 198 was named. I promised them! And we cant have food all the time!!! Unless its like marmite or bubble 'n' squeak. I think its against guidelines! yeah thats the ticket!

But you could. I think you could. We're talking about assertiveness, not aggression. Probably won't feel very good at first, but just submitting didn't feel good, either, did it? I'm not saying that when your son confronted you, it would have been a positive response to go on the attack. However, you could have said something like, "Son, my clothes weren't completely dry, and I am simply trying to expedite the drying of your load so my clothes can get back in to finish." No apology, just a matter of fact explanation that is not overly accusatory or reactive.