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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#1
Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.
Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely. This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means. It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends. We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience. Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread. Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner and make yourselves comfy. -- Because life should be transformative, and grammar is life! Right? |
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Roses are falling.
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#2
Will this transformation also apply to me?
P.s Fanx for the new couch. __________________ |
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underdog is here
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#4
Looks like a bit of jumped the gun on starting this thread with the other one not being finished yet.
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
Member Since Jun 2011
Location: Milan/Michigan
Posts: 40,126
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#5
Well its coming up on my naptime
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2010
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#6
Thanks for the new couch!
ETA I just emailed T and was noticing my random and incorrect use of commas. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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Legendary Wise Elder
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Location: CA
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#7
Brief mention without details of abuse.
Possible trigger:
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Legendary Wise Elder
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Ranting. Sorry. This salesman at my office is bugging me about commission that was determined by the higher ups to belong to another salesman. And the first salesman keeps calling me and talking to me about it, and telling me all the stuff he did for the project, but it was already determined by the higher ups that it went to the other salesman. First salesman keeps saying he's tired of giving this guy stuff and doing all the work and not getting paid. And on and on. And I keep telling him to go to the higher ups because it's not my call. And he still keeps trying to talk to me about it. Sigh. HUGS Kit
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Grand Magnate
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#9
Don’t be hard on yourself SlumberKitty, I would have thought the same exact thing. I would have been so triggered I might not have ever been able to work with her again. It seems like an awkward moment for anyone though.
__________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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Grand Magnate
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#10
lost my post... hope I didn’t put it in a random place or send it as an email to anyone...
My son is harassing me again today and I don’t know what time H gets home. I seem to have lost that space I wanted to be in with T Monday. I sent him this email: I’m frustrated. I have been able to hold that space I wanted to work with you from within on Monday all the way to today and now I am afraid I lost it. I’m discouraged. Before I knew what I wanted and needed Monday so that we could work together. Now I want to be back in the chairs, in the middle of the room not touching anything, back in my head, high above the experience and separated from you and that infant part of me and the possibility of the feelings. Up to today I had very little anxiety about asking you for what I needed Monday. Now there is a yucky ambivalence about it and I can feel myself checking out (more disconnected, closer to blacked out, than my normal dissociation). I’m also noticing that I am having trouble regulating my temperature, my feet are really cold. I don’t know what shifted but I’m feeling disappointed. I hope he has some magical way of knowing where I was and how to get me back there... but then that might make me suspicious that getting me there the first time was planned rather than a happy accident. I like happy accident better. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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Child of a lesser god
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#11
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Always in This Twilight
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#12
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Ex-T had an English degree, and I once printed out an email I'd sent to ex-MC for her to read. She read through it, and I commented on an error in it, like I'd used "they're" instead of "their," something like that. And she was like, "Yeah, I noticed that." I was super careful with future emails to her. Ex-MC sucked at grammar and stuff. Current T seems to have a pretty good grasp on the English language, thought does some random stuff like unnecessary hyphens in "I've been in private practice for 15-years." But he's otherwise a really good writer, like in email replies, so I let it go. I am careful in what I send him though. (I'm a copy editor by trade.) |
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Shortly before T and I had our rupture this past spring, I finally told her about my fears of a male T in the same suite as her. When I was trying to work through our rupture, she brought up something in relationship to my fears. I was so mad because those fears started like a year prior, it had taken me that long to bring it up to her and it felt like she treated it as if it was some how related to the rupture. Maybe that was part of the need for the long break from therapizing. I know a big part was that I needed her to stop bringing up things I had said - felt like she was weaponizing my own words. Ok, so I got issues |
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#14
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Grand Magnate
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#15
Grammar may not be the stuff of life, but it's the glue that lets us make sense of it.
And that sounds like a fractured fortune cookie message. |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#16
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Pause for effect... Gertrude Stein!!! You'd never guess it from that "A rose..." nonsense! ETA - LT - re 15-years: ooh that grates especially! |
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Grand Magnate
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#17
"Colorless green ideas sleep furiously."
Chomsky's generative grammar that supports this^ sentence as both grammatically correct and meaningless. Maybe Stein was ahead of her time! re 15-years: ooh that grates especially! I agree that this looks awful, but at least at one time, it was correct usage: compound adjectives used before a noun, like "15-year career." But you've got to state the noun. |
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underdog is here
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#18
Miss Furr and Miss Skeene
"They stayed there and were gay there, not very gay there, just gay there. They were both gay there, they were regularly working there both of them cultivating their voices there, they were both gay there. Georgine Skeene was gay there and she was regular, regular in being gay, regular in not being gay, regular in being a gay one who was one not being gay longer than was needed to be one being quite a gay one. They were both gay then there and both working there then." Read “Miss Furr and Miss Skeene,” a fiction by Gertrude Stein – Biblioklept re 15-years: ooh that grates especially! It is the exclamation mark that I find offensive. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#19
Thanks for the new couch Una! I've got the perfect pillow.
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Child of a lesser god
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#20
And while we’re on the grammar, it’s “fourth century” when a noun (In the fourth century) and fourth-century when an adjective (the fourth-century basilica).
All therapists should know Latin. IMHO. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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