Couch 201: The Transformative Grammar Couch

I suggest you talk it over with him.

I'm not coping very well.

I gave up and I changed my exam date = 02.09.2019 - Monday

My mother isn't happy with me.

Should I change back? Am I just giving up before really trying. I still have 6 days. I learnt the whole of second year biochem in 5. I don't now what to do. The cheapest flight back to london would be on monday. I have to cram a weeks placement. I didn't try hard enough.

HUGS @Lemoncake

The biopsy finally came back and it's not cancer. So relieved!

YAY!

I'm so happy for you!

I'm sorry if i'm confusing you with someone else but have you started decorating the new new home?

@Lemoncake - your mother does not have to take the exam.

I am proud of you for doing what is in your best interest.

Thanks, Lemoncake!

I still have one box of decor to open, and I still have to hang the curtains, so I guess I'm in the middle of decorating.

Got distracted by all the drama surrounding the plumbing problems. I'll finish decorating in August, after summer classes are over.

MP - glad it was not cancer

So happy for you MP!

Also really happy for you MP!

Good news MP

Info report:

Fashion: off white capris, white flip flops, big gold four-disc earrings, gauzy flowy hibiscus colored off the shoulder top with big tropical flowers splashed across it. White bikini top underneath.

Random therapeutic advice: “You should get your eyebrows shaped.”

Closing quote: “It takes two to know one.”

Good news, MP!

While I fully support any woman's - even a therapist's -right to personal choices to wear whatever she likes, I completely draw the line at a therapist telling me what I should do, how I should look etc.

Was she trying to quote Yogi Berra?

My box of rocks for Geology class came today:

No, she said she’d come across it in a book she’s reading. It does sound Yogi-ish.

The idea is that in a relationship each person knows things about themselves and the other person that the other person doesn’t necessarily know about themselves. So only by communicating with the other person can a person know themselves. So you say can’t “I’m a good mother” all by yourself, other people have to know that about you too.

I brought this on by making my closing quote the Delphic maxim “know thyself” (γνῶθι σεαυτοῦν).

All I can think of is the Spice Girls (when 2 become 1) although that has a different meaning

Maybe if you only spoke to her in greek it would help

@@..I will pay you cash money if you take SD’s suggestion and go in and talk to her in all greek.

I love that expression, cash money! Thats an old timers term.

Damn tasty feelings the past few days. Curses. I had lost back 4 of the 10 lbs I'd gained since surgery in May, and now those 4 are back so I'm back to 260 lbs (I'd gotten down to 250 and stayed there consistently until the whole appendix thing had to go and happen.) I am just so anxious and it had been better since I saw L last week but now it's bad again, cuz of son's situation, they still don't have their new place so are with us still, yesterday a pest control company hired by the new apartment complex (altho my son had to pay for it) came in and installed some trap things all around our house to verify there's no bed bugs here, and if they are empty after this week they get to move in over at the new place this coming weekend. I am so crossing my fingers. So far they are empty after 24 hours. The traps have a pheramone in them or something that attracts the dastardly bugs. I am so over all of this and I know my son and his gf are too I think I'm picking up their stress and adding it to my own and it just feeds my anxiety something awful. Which makes me in turn feed my stupid face. I feel so damn broken again. I cannot gain back all that weight. I cannot. I will not!!

Dang, IKEA just sent me a coupon for a free birthday meal and dessert. Bet it’s not gluten free.

H saw a Pdoc today, and...she doesn't think anxiety is his issue She did prescribe him an anxiety/depression med. I don't remember the name. H said he told her about the 50+ hospital visits. She said that's understandable?!?! He said he also told her about buying cars. Again she said that's understandable... Supposedly since he never had been diagnosed with anxiety, it can't just occur out of nowhere. What?

I walked out of my second marriage counseling session 20 mins in today..

When the t wants to do the same communication exercise he shared with us last week.. I stopped him and say we are very aware we need communication help, but our problems are deeper than learning to communicate. We need to get to the core of those issues before I feel safe implementing these techniques. He agrees we do, but this is only our second session and we need to establish a relationship before we get to those issues. He then went on to start talking about the technique that I stopped him from doing before. And I was done. I told him I am sorry, but I couldn’t do this today.

He did say maybe another therapist would be helpful? Perhaps he offended me. Didn’t really say anything to that. I apologized to my h and the t and left.

Maybe I was being selfish In that moment? But the fact was I felt ignored and not understood and he just moved on. He did not acknowledge that I did not feel like we were at a place that we could do this communication exercise I meant it. And ignored it like he didn’t care- he was expert and he was going to do it his way.

I am close to being done with therapists.

Would it be helpful if you held off on any further marriage counseling sessions until you get back into your individual therapy? I would have taken walking out as you standing up for yourself and setting boundaries. “No. I will not be ignored. I said I need this first” you let them know you won’t be walked on.