Couch 203: The Spam and Cool Whip Couch!

Oh and it's his 50th birthday today. Wonder how it is to spend a milestone birthday in prison.

When I went back to school, it was to better both of our lives, and I did that. I have an actual career with a good salary. We had a house and actual money in retirement accounts. He was just kind of along for the ride. I probably sound like an asshole right now.

I think anyone who abuses should get nothing—zip, zero, nada—in a divorce.

It’s completely unfair, NP. But make sure, since it looks like you have to give him something, it comes with a stipulation that that is it. And then he will be gone from your life.

My lawyer gave me some good advice—if 2ex asked for anything reasonable and to which he had a legal claim, give it to him. He said otherwise all that happens is that the whole thing gets prolonged and the only person who benefits is the lawyer because he gets more fees.

Np...you don’t sound like an asshole.

I'm spending my long weekend reading essays. Woohoo! Graded a set of my own plus scoring SAT, so reading essays is my life right now.

Everyone in my family is dealing with their own stresses right now. My mommy instincts want to fix it all, but the reality is that these things will just have to work themselves out in time:

My oldest son and his wife have been surviving on his income alone for several months because she incurred a work injury and workman's comp has been dragging its heels. Son finally got a lawyer and doctor has confirmed the injury, so they should be getting a rather larg backpay amount and then disability pay should kick back in, but in the meantime, they are just squeaking by. Just to add to their stress, son was t-boned Friday and the car is totaled. Of course, it was fully paid for and only liability insurance, so now they are down to one vehicle for awhile.

Hubby is have a really bad pain cycle right now (neurological disorder) and is just struggling through each day. Walking, even with his walker, is very difficult. Still working full time though. That many is amazingly strong. He has a morphine pump refill this week which should help; they'll be able to up the dosage a bit.

Youngest son is working his butt off at college. He's a teaching assistant (as a junior) for two music education courses, an officer for two different music organizations, doing observations at schools, and working his job. He's tired and stressed (although that is his normal state). Hopefully as he gets into the routine things will settle in -- first of the semester craziness right now.

As a positive, our mtf transgender daughter has found a very supportive mtf transgender friend. She came to visit this last week and we are really impressed by her openness, kindness, and graciousness to our daughter and to us. We look forward to more time getting to know her. Our daughter is rather on cloud 9 right now to have someone who she so directly relates to.

My dad is rather depressed these days. He's about to turn 89 and he's lonely and seems to just be waiting for the end. Our nephew took him to his doctor appointment, and his doctor (who we love) picked up on the depression immediately and gave him a talking to about needing to stay active or he might need to be on an antidepressant. THAT lit a fire under Dad; he already hates the meds he absolutely has to take for his circulation and a rare autoimmune disorder. When I talked to him yesterday, he did sound perkier and and his voice was crisper. He didn't launch into his usual "Woe is me" routine. We'll see.

I have to keep reminding myself I can't fix anyone but myself. Mommy instincts are strong. LOL.

That's good you know not to try to fix things. My dad is a "fixer". He means well but it is often not what I need.

Grading essays is your comeuppance for assigning them.

Sorry to hear your husband is having such a rough time.

Still having a rough time Couchies. I let some IRL people know I’m not doing well but still no relief. When my Dad gets home we are going to play a game. Looking forward to some distraction. Hugs if anyone wants one. Kit

LOL! Well, the SAT essays are for the actual College Board. It's a side job.

I am sick of hurricanes. Classes have been cancelled this week. Last year Florence caused them to be canceled for more than a month. Causes all sorts of problems. I bet they're going to cancel Fall Break now.

I am binge watching a show from the uk called bad lads army. It is fascinating and bizarre how men bond.

I wonder how Ruh Roh is doing. It’s been a really long time since Ruh Roh left and when they did they left in anger.

My latest favorite youtube comedian is joe lycette. He says lads a lot. He also has a show where he responds to email scammers for people. He is just adorable. A lot of sotto voce.

I am so stressed about what to do about the grey cat, whom I have decided is a he not a she, for the hurricane. The mother is allergic to cats, so can't evacuate him there. I also don't know if he has ever lived indoors or used a litter box. My sister has also hurt my feelings by not inviting me to stay with her. I was supposed to visit her this past weekend, but had to cancel due to schoolwork. She seemed relieved. I feel hurt. My sister is my best and only friend. I don't know what I've done wrong.

Dreading work. Struggling with the urge to SH. So sick of this.

Do you maybe have a room where the cat could be if you can't figure out the gender? It sounds horrible if he/she had to stay outside and probably die or at least be traumatized because cat parts are hard... and if it's only in one room, cleaning in case of no litter training would probably be okay too...

Managed to make it through an exhausting labor day, when classes were in session but staff and most administrative offices, including HR, had the day off. At least I'm not grading essays like Artley!

(just trying to jump into the conversation a bit)

Broke down and emailed my T again, the second time in two days. I hate this. I hate myself and my life.

The mother will not allow the cat in her house since she is allergic. It's not even an option.

I absolutely will not just leave the cat out and hope for the best. That is why I am stressed. I have to figure something out.

My dog met the first person who doesnt think he wonderful and cute and he couldnt work why he had to sit by the chair instead of getting cuddles and scritches.

Could you possibly leave the cat in your house with some food/water, even if you're evacuating? As it would still be safer than outside, I'd imagine.

Our cyclone advice if you are evacuated is to leave any pets in the house with enough water for a couple of days as evac centres dont take pets
I see LT has already suggested that

I dont want to adult today the lady bought my Terry Pratchett collection and i cant be bothered making room for 50 books i would rather read them and play my game. I have to take my D for her OT appointment today.

How can classes be in session when staff are off?

I have to go adult now wish me luck