Couch 206: The Hersilia Couch

I just got back Geology assignment 9 and got 10/10, I am thrilled with that because I changed my answer probably 7 times on one of the questions, and I was certain I still had it wrong haha she gave us a diagram of a cross-section of 8 different layers of rocks/intrusions and stuff and we had to figure out the sequence each layer came into being using the principle of cross-cutting relationships, law of superposition, unconformities, etc. I ended up getting it right, but like I said, I had to change my answer umpteen times before I finally said the heck with it I'm turning it in! The other reason I am thrilled with that is that there were 6 math problems. Y'all know how much I love math. But at least it was the same problem 6 times with different numbers, so I had a fighting chance anyway if I did one right, I'd do them all right (the whole, figuring out where different events would be on a 12 inch ruler thing). She posted a video that sort of explained the math, which is why I was able to figure it out... thankfully! On to the next module, which is about Earthquakes.

I wish I could bring you some chicken noodle soup (or whatever would make you feel comforted).

Spent the day serving as a juror in the jury pool for my county - not chosen for jury service - just watched a lot of HGTV.

Husband is mad that I didn't go into work this evening - however, our company policy is clear that you get paid for your normal hours even if you are a 2nd (me) or 3rd shift worker and don't go into work. I asked him why would I go into work if I am paid for it either way (and they already found coverage for me). He told me I'm not "God-fearing" - whatever that means. He refuses to go into work early or stay late - ever. It's a case of do as I say not as I do.

Hi couch, I've been avoiding a lot this weekend and today, including here. Just feeling very down and like I'm powerless. Dont want to keep being negative Nancy so I havent talked to anyone this weekend except my T this morning. And a crisis line tonight for 10 minutes who told me to go to a walk in. I feel like .

Tell him jersey said to go pound sand.

I played hookey a lot of days in wife school so I must of missed the day they taught that wives are supposed to do as they say.

Theres wife school?!

Must be at the same place where they make the food rules!

I definitely flunked wife school

Buy him this: https://www.amazon.com/Husband-Schoo...1744/ref=nodl_

Thanks! This is perfect!

I think I went to the wrong wife school...

Hugs, SheHulk.

I wait for the day my husband tries to tell me what to do. He knows better.

So I'm on my insurance website looking for new t's to interview that take my insurance. I ran across this, something new I've never seen before: "Telemental health uses technology to provide mental health services from a distance. You can connect with one of these providers through secure, web-based videoconferencing to get behavioral health services from the privacy and comfort of your own home. This is included as part of your current benefits."

That last line "This is included as part of your current benefits" almost sounds like there's no charge to use it. Doesn't it? I'm going to call HR tomorrow and find out. Might be something worth looking into.

Just a vent:

I work part-time. If I wanted to work full-time I could but at this point in my life I do not want to. I am constantly asked by co-workers things like "why do you work so few hours" and "how can you afford to live on so few hours". Some employees (that aren't even in my department) are constantly offering me more hours.

Do people really think it's appropriate to comment on the hours someone works and their perceived pay?

On one hand it’s inappropriate but there is a tiny part of me that thinks they think they are trying to help by wanting to give you extra hours. You can just say something like..thanks for the offer of more hours but part time is my choice and I’m good. And just end the conversation there. If they can pick up on social cues they will take the hint that it’s not up for discussion.

They are definitely trying to help - and I'm flattered that they are so concerned about how many hours I work. Sometimes I pick up an extra shift here and there.

But if I have to hear "that's all the hours you work" - I might lose it!! . I think you put it more rationally than I would

Artie - no. There will be a charge. They are just saying like, "now you can see a chiropractor if you want, whereas we didnt cover it last year." But telehealth in general is more convenient (and cheaper?) than in person. I LOOOOVE the guy that cleared up my UTI. I havent tried one for mental health tho.

Ah I getcha. That makes more sense.

About to give my presentation on SH. I’m planning to do it round table style rather than a ppt so that people are more likely to talk to one another.

Wish me luck?

Good luck!!! I'm sure participants will prefer the roundtable style to yet another PPT presentation!

Good luck CC

I am heading to work shortly. After sleeping on it last night and racking my brain, I just decided I need to stop trying so hard with this 4 year old kid. I’m just going to take what comes, deal with it in the moment and stop trying to help him change his behavior. Until he gets help by professionals trained to deal with this type of thing, all bets are off because he simply can’t help whatever is going on for him. There will still be clear boundaries. He will not get away with hurting his siblings, but I am going to stop trying so hard. I think this has been part of the issue. I’m trying and pushing too hard with making deals and bribes and such.

This seems like a good plan, for your own sanity. There's only so much you can do, as, like you said, you're not trained to handle what's going on with him. Hopefully, the professionals can help him (though that's a long time away, right?)

Thanks for the well wishes! It went pretty well, ppl talked and definitely started listening hard when I disclosed that I had tried SH. (I didn’t tell them that I continue to experience urges bc I didn’t want them to feel like they had to worry about me). It was a small group, 8 ppl.