Couch 206: The Hersilia Couch

Yeah, you make some good points. I'm a bit less concerned about running into him because he usually does appointments on the half hour and she does them on the hour. And with it being late afternoon, it's less likely he'd be taking a break then (vs lunchtime). But I can also confirm that with him.

I figure I'll see what she says when she calls and then maybe try another couple sessions, see how it goes. It could also be that D needs someone with more expertise in autism (found a couple possibilities on Psychology Today). But an advantage of her location is that she's right by H's work, so would be easy enough for him to attend. And I imagine it's something I could talk to T about, like, "Hey, is there a chance I could run into you? How would that go?" I didn't feel particularly anxious about running into him or being near his office--honestly, I think I felt more calm because it was a familiar setting.

Maybe you guys can put something into place where if you did run into him? Like No acknowledgment. Then you know from the get go. He not going to acknowledge you. Nobody gets hurt if that’s the “plan”. Mind you, I’m not saying that should be the plan..but a plan in place would be good so there is no anxiety on what would happen if you run into him.

4 year old boy today:
“Jersey when I’m big and get my driving license I’m going to drive to your house everyday so you are not lonely”
I guess he feels lonely.

Maybe he was told thats why you drive to HIS house every day!

I asked him if he feels lonely when I’m there. He said no not all the time. Just when I’m feeding brother. I asked him Do you want me to feed you too? He laughed and said “Don’t be silly Jersey. I know how to hold a fork”!

And I spoke too soon re: workers in house, as one just arrived. Sigh. I feel my brief conversations with the plumber have reached new heights of conversational awkwardness (thankfully, H is working from home!) The tiling guy is OK.

Just an observation but I feel like you've outgrown info.

I just wrote Info. My upset and anger over yesterday’s mixup is still there, but I’m much more upset about my mother (yes, I know she’s in no danger of dying, but it reminds me she’s mortal, I’ll lose her some day, and my ability to be there for her is limited). My sister and I have worked out a schedule for the next couple weekends, which also means I need to reschedule my new appointment with Info to replace yesterday’s.

And writing all that reminded me of how 2ex couldn’t be bothered to offer to come for my surgeries. He said he didn’t know people did that. How do you NOT know you do your utmost to be by a loved one’s side in a crisis? People on the Couch back then barely knew me because I’d just been a member a few months, yet you were there for me then more than he was. God, what a turd he is.

Im getting confused myself, but i was thinking, they told him that you drive over because YOU are lonely. So him letting you in his house is him doing you a favor. As opposed to you coming over just to be the boss of him.

I mean, hes probably just the right age to be totally confused. Who ARE you to him? Is there a book about this?

Info’s response? Useless.

Shocking, I know.

Ohhh. Now I see what you are saying. Yes, I’m not too sure what he thinks I am to him. He doesn’t know I get paid to be there. He asked me before why I don’t go to work.

Why am not surprised.

“It is difficult to be so far away from mom when she is not feeling well.... At times like this it does bring the issue of mortality to the forefront. I am glad you are going to be with your mom during this time.”

It’s all like that. Repeating what I said in my email (and somehow dumbing it down to boot). And why would I care if she’s glad or not?

“It is difficult to be so far away from mom when she is not feeling well.... At times like this it does bring the issue of mortality to the forefront. I am glad you are going to be with your mom during this time.”

It’s all like that. Repeating what I said in my email (and somehow dumbing it down to boot). And why would I care if she’s glad or not?

And why would I care if she’s glad or not?