[Have Hope]

I am in between therapists right now and realize how much I truly need one, especially right now in my life.

I am praying they can find me a suitable therapist and SOON, but in the meantime, I feel totally LOST. Like I am heading upstream without a paddle!

I need SO much support and guidance right now. To boot, my anxiety is out of control at the moment.

I am f-ing up my whole life and I don't like myself right now. I am very angry with myself, and I want a therapist to just tell me, "It's OK, you are doing great in fact, and everything will turn out JUST FINE.".

I need reassurance. I really need HELP.

[oreoboreo]

That's tough! If you've had a good relationship with any of your past therapists can you recall what they would say to you right now? Can you list all of the things that are going well or ok in your life and rely on those as your guidance?

Alternatively, have you considered short term online therapy while you wait? I believe it is an out of pocket deal, but it may help for a while.

[ktcharmed]

Originally Posted by Have Hope

I am in between therapists right now and realize how much I truly need one, especially right now in my life.

I am praying they can find me a suitable therapist and SOON, but in the meantime, I feel totally LOST. Like I am heading upstream without a paddle!

I need SO much support and guidance right now. To boot, my anxiety is out of control at the moment.

I am f-ing up my whole life and I don't like myself right now. I am very angry with myself, and I want a therapist to just tell me, "It's OK, you are doing great in fact, and everything will turn out JUST FINE.".

I need reassurance. I really need HELP.

I’m in exactly the same position so I get it. It’s hard.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by oreoboreo

That's tough! If you've had a good relationship with any of your past therapists can you recall what they would say to you right now? Can you list all of the things that are going well or ok in your life and rely on those as your guidance?

Alternatively, have you considered short term online therapy while you wait? I believe it is an out of pocket deal, but it may help for a while.

Thank you. I appreciate your help.

Yes, I have had a good relationship with past therapists. They would probably tell me to reach out to family and/or friends for comfort.

I don't feel much is going well in my life, that's the problem. I just posted in the depression forum that I am deeply depressed. It's coloring my perspective on my life. It's coloring everything negatively.

I could try other online therapists I suppose, but I have to pay for a chiropractor twice a week right now and can't afford any other additional expenses.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by ktcharmed

I’m in exactly the same position so I get it. It’s hard.

I'm sorry. It sucks.... I feel your pain.

[downandlonely]

I'm sorry Have Hope. I hope you can find a therapist soon. In the meantime, you can reach out to us.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by downandlonely

I'm sorry Have Hope. I hope you can find a therapist soon. In the meantime, you can reach out to us.

Thank you so much.

I really need the support right now. I am unraveling and fast. I just took an anti-anxiety med and am hoping that will help.

All I want to do is crawl back into bed and go to sleep.. they say that depression is anger turned inwards.

And that's what it is I think for me. I'm really disappointed in myself. I've been behaving in ways that are beneath my standard in behavior, and I am angry and upset with myself... deeply angry and upset with myself.

And I am depressed about my work situation, which has been toxic to my mental health. I am applying for jobs, but it could take six months before I can leave, or maybe even longer.

I'm just really depressed. I've posted about four threads now about it, in trying to get support and help. I'm desperate for help and support. I feel so very alone.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

I'm really sorry, Have Hope. You're going through some tough times, I know. PM if you want to.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

I'm really sorry, Have Hope. You're going through some tough times, I know. PM if you want to.

Thank you soooo much!!! I really appreciate the offer. It is a tough time.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

People here on PC have been here for me during these bleak moments, so I'm really happy to be here for you. I can, at least, listen and get it.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

People here on PC have been here for me during these bleak moments, so I'm really happy to be here for you. I can, at least, listen and get it.

You’ve helped more than you know with your posts in my other threads. Thank you so much!!!

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

Big huuuuuuuuggggssss!

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

Big huuuuuuuuggggssss!

TY!

[Have Hope]

And I realized as well that my last therapist really has not helped me to grow or to overcome any of my issues. I saw her for 2-3 years, and I don't feel like I got anything out of it. She never told me what I do well, she never reflected back to me any progress I've made, she never validated my feelings about work, and she only pointed out to me what I do wrong or where I went wrong.

She never even told me that I have co-dependent tendencies.... I had to figure that out for myself through this forum!

She was and is a bad therapist! I think she caused more harm than good.

Why are there so many bad therapists out there???? I've had many throughout my entire life, and I can think of maybe 2 that were good out of 10-12.

It's maddening.

There's bad therapists, bad doctors, bad lawyers, bad work supervisor, bad teachers....and the reason we feel blindsided when we encounter these bad people, is because over time they have learned to disguise themselves as healthy sources of support and resources.

I have some stories of bad therapists and bad teachers, even professors. Bad doctors too. I think we all have those stories. The hard part for us all, is how to process that horrible encounter so that we don't let it become a stereotype we put on everyone else in that profession. One bad apple does not mean the entire bunch is bad.

So, take comfort knowing that we've all been there.

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche

There's bad therapists, bad doctors, bad lawyers, bad work supervisor, bad teachers....and the reason we feel blindsided when we encounter these bad people, is because over time they have learned to disguise themselves as healthy sources of support and resources.

I have some stories of bad therapists and bad teachers, even professors. Bad doctors too. I think we all have those stories. The hard part for us all, is how to process that horrible encounter so that we don't let it become a stereotype we put on everyone else in that profession. One bad apple does not mean the entire bunch is bad.

So, take comfort knowing that we've all been there.

Yes, I know this... but I've had more bad therapists than good. Maybe I just have bad luck, but in general I think there are a lot of bad therapists out there.

[BudFox]

I was harmed by a "good", or at least "average", therapist. From my many years of research and observation, I think good/bad therapist is a false dichotomy, and it's therapy itself that causes problems. That's why you see so many people saying they've run into a lot of "bad" therapists.

I agree with you @BudFox that it's the therapy itself that causes problems. Yes, some therapists don't belong in their roles. I experienced that a few times. But in general, I think if you are given bad therapy, you won't get anything helpful from that.

[Have Hope]

My last therapist was more harmful than helpful. I still prefer to have one than not, and I do feel lost without.