Dream about T (No boxers involved)

I was in session and I got up to leave. I say to him, "Shouldn't we establish a set schedule?" He said, "Wow! What a great question!! Good idea!" I was reaching for the doorknob and he pinched my arm twice, right by the elbow. He said, "See? This is the type of physical contact that I give." I said, "Yeah. Great. But you are pinching me." Then he gently rubbed the spot where he had pinched me.

(((((Pinksoil)))))

A pinch to grow an inch? Accepting the boundaries?

Awww but he rubbed it and made it better. That's a nice dream Pink. I hope you are feeling better today.

this was a dream? what did you feel about it?

Yea, it was a dream. I remember the tone of the dream. I remember feeing surprised that he would pinch me, but still elated, that he was touching me. Then I felt even more elated when he rubbed the spot that he pinched. I was thinking, "We've finally gotten to that point in the relationship where he will touch me-- maybe it's not a hug, but it is better than nothing."

That's weird - i also dreamt about T today (one from a few years back, the one i cared a lot for like a really cool aunt)... we were at the end of a walkway and sat and talked. Other people who needed phisical help took the continual road above us, and others who were done took the path that lead to the parking lot. Then another man came to us at the end of the path and T was telling him how T's cannot be friends with people after therapy ends. I left them to their talk, knowing my relationship was somehow different because i was the one who ended therapy with her asking if i could instead adopt her as my aunt or something because she is more family to me than my family. I went down the path to where the parking lot was.

Cool dream, Pink! Do you think you know what it represents?

Interesting that in your reply to my other thread you asked me if I was pinched to see if I was dreaming.

And in this dream, he really did pinch me.

This dream took place before the session. But now you've made me think-- because I often struggle with staying grounded in session. I tend to dissociate and tell him things aren't "real." Perhaps in the dream he was pinching me to represent that our relationship and our therapy in real.

It's like a dream - you try to remember but it's gone, then ya
Try to scream but it only comes out as a yawn, when ya
Try to see the world beyond your front door.
Take your time cos the way I rhyme's gonna make you smile, when ya
Realise that a guy my size might take a while, just to
Try to figure out what all this is for.
Pinch Me
Pinch Me
Cos I'm still asleep.
Please God
Tell Me
That I'm still asleep

Oh, Perna. That's too perfect!! Nice work but I can't believe that you stopped there:

On an evening such as this
It's hard to tell if I exist
If I Packed a car and leave this town
Who'll notice that I'm not around?
I could hide out under there
I just made you say 'underwear'

>>>I believe he just made you say underwear, as in men's white boxers? Pink, it's all coming together. It won't be long now before all of us have broken the code to your dream, ROFL.

I might be way off, and maybe interpreting things according to my own feelings/experiences...

But your dream really struck me. I have some erotic transference going on for my T, and if I'd had your dream, I know what it would mean to me. The pinch, and the fact that he said this is the kind of physical contact he gives could represent both the physical touch you want from your T, but also with safe therapy kind of boundaries. I think it could also represent the intimacy that a lot of us want to have with our T's (not just romantic, but relationship intimacy in general... wanting a personal, two-way relationship). The fact that you were pinched (pinches hurt) struck me because I think that the T relationship is both exciting and torturous (because it isn't everything we long for)... so it makes sense that you were glad to be touched, but that the touch hurt.

But... my favorite part of it is that he rubs it better. Still safe touch, and appropriate boundaries, but a loving, healing gesture. Understanding the pain you go through, and doing his best to soothe it. Just like T's understand what we go through in the T relationship, and do their best to give comfort and support and genuine caring... even if they can't be everything we wish they could.

That's just my idea. Like I said, I could be projecting my own feelings into it too much. But I just thought I'd share what I got from it, in case it rang true at all for you.

You have a great T, I can tell.