What's wrong with my psychologist?

Could be. I have no idea, and only remember her saying bla bla bla malpractice bla bla. Thanks!

Although I vaguely recall her saying she could lose her license if she ignores their recommendation.

At a certain point, I think you just have to let it go. *

How are things with the new therapist? Any progress there?

*ETA I know that's a lot easier said than done.

Tomorrow will the 2nd session with new therapist. Hopefully better tomorrow. Last time she didn't talk much. Maybe she was writing a lot. I feel such anger for my 1st therapist that I don't want therapy anymore. But for some reason 2 days ago my psychiatrist asked me to continue going to my therapist. He's an awesome doctor, so I'll go just because he asked.

It can take a while to get comfortable with a new person, and some of them don't talk as much. Here's hoping tomorrow's better.

It can take several sessions to get settled in with a new person. Two sessions is very early on... especially when you are just out of a bad previous therapy experience. Give it a shot.

Also, a 'general' psychologist has training in clinical psych. IF you have a psychiatrist, it shouldn't impede your care as they (psychiatrist) can prescribe you meds, if needed.

I haven't followed this entire thread, so I can't say exactly what you've been discussing, but have you tried to express this general feeling that you feel rejected by your last therapist with your current therapist? I wonder if that might help... Therapists can usually (at least the good ones) can offer some support on past hurts from other therapists. I have experienced this before, and am currently trying to get over a rift with a past therapist, too. I hope you'll find the support you need with this new T.

i'm wondering if you have Borderline Personality Disorder because you act like ME when someone "leaves" you.
I will give you the advice I give myself: You have to accept this because it is a done deal....It hurts alot I know because a BEST FRIEND of many years dumped me and that was 6 years ago and when I think of her I still have "pain and sorrow". I know that I always will.

You are always going to feel this pain of this situation whenever you think about it and right now it is very raw...Realize this will pass....for the most part....don't carry this with you...and say to yourself this is HER problem and not yours...She shouldn't have went into the profession if she can't handle the intense feelings of some of her patients and she should have been able to guage your level of emotional coping before taking you on.

Someone else said it...Maybe you remind her of someone or something from her past that makes "her" very uncomfortable with continuing with your care...You have to put it on ...ITS HER and NOT YOU....You said you have these other "therapists" you are talking to and they don't understand why she would do this either...and the other therapists or people you are talking to are not leaving you....So again it is HER.

Try to feel sympathy for HER....and remember everything happens for a reason....Possibly you will now find a psychologist (because she cut ties) that will really help you to stop having these thoughts. Maybe she felt like a failure in your case because you continue to have these thoughts and struggles and she possibly felt like she wasn't helping you and very likely DOES care for you very much and wants you to get someone that can possibly help you.

I'm extremely torn apart by someone that has left my life recently that was in my life for over 7 years...and for me to survive on a daily basis with the tormenting pain I am suffering from this loss (like you)...I have to repeat to myself...It is HIM not ME.

Misssy2, your post resonated with me. I "lost" a friend of many years and dont know what happened for him to shut me and DH out.
Ive tried to reach out several times but no response.
Ive had to accept that I wont ever know "what happened" between us.
It is very hard to deal with but does get easier bit by bit.

It must be even harder losing a therapist.
Best wishes Stahrgeyzer.

Thanks for the encouragement. Sorry for what some of you are going through! I can't imagine what it must be like to have a friend for 6 to 8 years and suddenly end the friendship without telling you why. Wow! That's a difficult one!

Hopefully this will be my last post about my psychologist for awhile but sometimes lately I just feel like screaming for so many reasons. I feel like the person I truly thought cared about me more than anyone in the world gambled with my life and doesn't care about me.

You're right, therapy was better than 1st session. Most the time was spent talking about my psychologist. Maybe my therapist was just being supportive but she's not happy with my psychologist, especially the phone call "Go to your car now or I'm hanging up." I told the therapist that some people said my psychologist may have thought I was just seeking attention & never had any intentions of jumping since I have BPD. The therapist didn't like that at all. She said that's the wrong, and that an alarming percentage of BPD commit suicide. She also said my psychologist might have some personal issues she's dealing with. Last thing, the therapist said my psychologist should have given me a final therapy session when I got out of the psych ward to give me closure.

I want so much to write to my psychologist one more time but I'll resist....I forgive you, now I must forget you.

May I ask - what did you want your psychologist to tell you or do for you when you were on that bridge and called her?

Countless ways. How about this one:
"I care about you as a human being. I'm so sorry if what I said to you caused you to want to end you life. Please give me a chance to make up for that."

To be treated like a human being who's worth spending more than a few minutes with because I'm on a bridge wanting to jump.

I see. So she caused you to go on that bridge and plan for suicide and that's why it was her responsibility to talk you out of that. Is that correct?

I'd say it's anyone's responsibility to try and help someone who's about to commit suicide. Especially psychologists! There may even be laws regarding that. I know people have gone to jail for causing someone to commit suicide. That's why I wrote a suicide letter to my sister & her husband to not bother my psychologist.

Having read through all the thread I agree that your psychologist made mistakes that did not allow for the treatment with her to continue. Apparently it seems she couldn't hold proper boundaries and contain her own anxiety related to your potential suicide.

If you experience such a strong despair then you deserve to work with someone who can tolerate this despair without collapsing and also tolerate the potential that you might in fact succeed, whether on purpose or by accident. I sincerely hope that your current therapist is more able.

And it seems that she did help you in this respect because you walked away from that bridge. But she wasn't able to continue to help you after that with further therapy and that's where she fell short.

I think the confusion might arise that her help did not feel good to you. But that's not the necessity. The goal of the help was to keep you from committing suicide and she succeeded in that goal.

To end this thread, hopefully, fact still remains that all therapist I've talked to agree that what my psychologist said was wrong. And if she had shown me compassion then I can tell you the chances of me hanging up on her and jumping would have been far less.

This is my last post in this thread. Just wanted to say that in the end I will always think the world of my psychologist, and have the utmost respect for her. Even though I've done a lot of venting, grieving, and don't understand a lot of things in the end, I'm okay with that. I can write pages of all the thank yous to her! I owe her so much. I went to her knowing I could hold on to life maybe 1 or 2 more weeks. She saved my life, twice. Taught me so many things. I can't believe I've lost her, my therapist! My soul hurts!