Couch 216: The Baseball Couch

T still hasn’t called to explain the mystery complications of taking a week off from therapy

Also, J and I had an awesome hike/lunch and are going to hang out again tonight. Trigger for TMI:

Glad you had a good date and are hanging out again! I can understand your fears, but keep in mind you don't have to share with T if you don't want. Also,

Just because you're in therapy doesn't mean you don't get to have privacy and boundaries around what you're willing to share. He doesn't get to know the details of your sex life unless you want to share it with him, and there would be nothing wrong with it if you did want to share. Him expecting an answer kind of pisses me off on your behalf.

I feel miserable today. I'm crying for no reason. I wish I could talk to my therapist. Maybe I'll go buy some ice cream instead.

So T called, and while he did have the grace to start off by saying, "this is just my vote; you should do whatever you think is best," his arguments are a) usually when people are in twice-a-week therapy it's usually 'cause they need that frequency and therefore it's kind of a big ask to not have therapy for a whole week b) while things are OK now, as recently as like 2-3 weeks ago I was struggling pretty hard with some stuff including some scary SH things. So his suggestion was to find at least one time to have a session during that week.

Part of me wants to dig in my heels and say 'no' just to be stubborn. But part of me does see his point.

Isn't this the same therapist who didn't want you to go twice a week because that would be a reward for struggling? He should be pleased here.

You have to call the guy before you take a day off from work. Now he's interfering with your vacation schedule. He fussed when you had a change to your work schedule and said you were being manipulative (iirc). I don't see his point at all...unless his point is to control his clients into getting better. And then what do they do without him?

I'm kind of at the point where this guy worries me for you.

That is a good freaking point, @@.

Husband is being emotionally abusive tonight. I just got out of 5 days IP - so I definitely don't need this. Fortunately, tomorrow I am going to a friend's house and he is not invited.

I still stand by my opinion. If you have to be "in the know" and/or use a map to navigate a store, that's intentionally annoying.

ToddlerManatee managed almost all of a quarter mile hiking trail on foot today. She seemed to have the most fun of all playing in the gravel parking lot.

Trying to time tweaky dog's fireworks pill. I don't want to over drug him but I don't want to wait until he is shivering in the corner with his tail plastered to his belly in fear either.

Hugs, I'm sorry...I'm glad you can go to your friend's tomorrow.

Holey smokes! Thats probably a 10k for her! Did you carbo-load her yesterday?

My son just texted, he and his gf are going to pick up Indian food and bring it over for dinner tomorrow for my bday! We'll eat on the back patio and sit 6 feet apart of course. I miss my boy so much but am happy I get to see him tomorrow!

How do you feel about stopping to ask for directions?

Happy Birthday, Artie! I'm glad you get to see your son.

Thanks, NP!

Nobody speaks American in our Ikea.

Go at your own pace in both. You don't have to tell T anything you're not comfortable with at all even if he expects it.

I hope your friend gives you the care you deserve.

Una you broke the golden rule- you gave SD a hug for the tweaky dog post.

Happy birthday artie!!!

That's a lovely idea- hope you enjoy yourself

I will be hiding under the bed!!!

Oh, yes, I guess the directions might be “Turn left at the Poangs, keep on going past the Ektorps, turn right at the Billys, and you’ll be at the Hemnes.”

Have I mentioned that this kid doesn't really like carbs? I don't know where she gets that from -- definitely not from me!

Chihiro, I think you might need to set some boundaries with your therapist around the questions he asks about your dating life. It's totally ok if you don't feel like telling him the nitty gritty details of your intimate relationships and it's completely acceptable to let him know you'd rather he not ask you for those types of details. If you don't think you can bring yourself to set an explicit boundary, you could always answer those questions by saying you don't kiss and tell until he gets the message.