[Witchycreature]

It's happening again, right now! I'm so MAD!

Sorry I haven't said anything back to my last/first post about T forgetting our session Tuesday. I meant to update once I saw T today and talked to her about this because after reading everyone's supportive comments I did realize that ignoring or stuffing more pain down is not helping.

ANYWAYS, getting back to this moment happening as I'm typing! My T did not get on for our 5pm appt that was changed to 5 Sunday evening by her in a text convo. So I signed off after a while, visibly upset, but went into the rest of the house to be with family. I get a missed call and 2 texts from T literally a few minutes into 6pm, our original session time made last week, asking where I'm at and if I'm getting on. I rush texted YES as I was sprinting to my laptop, fell up the stairs, and signed into my computer as fast as possible all while trying to put a bra on to look more decent! I tried calling her and it went straight to her office voicemail. I sent her a text that I was online. Nada. I have gotten absolutely no response from her in the last over 30 minutes now. I'm sitting here like a wanker in her virtual "lobby" with my camera on and her online as well because it says she is available. I literally texted her 1 freaking minute after she sent her second text asking if I was getting on! I believe she must have taken another session. I'm getting pissed by the minute and tears are welling up in my eyes. I've never felt so dismissed, unimportant, and like I don't matter. Especially by someone I admire so much! I feel ridiculous, yet highly upset nonetheless. How dare she not give me a few extra minutes and time when I've been completely forgotten about!! Her and I are fixing to go around and around!

[Merope]

I’m so sorry this has happened. It sounds like she forgot that she asked to change the appointment time to 5? Not that it’s an excuse or anything.

I’d feel like you are feeling too. It’s horrible. They are supposed to make you feel like you matter (because you do) and they are supposed to be a constant presence. Changing times and then forgetting about it doesn’t exactly make one feel safe and heard.

Have you maybe thought about emailing her all of this? She should realise how triggering this can be, but maybe if you send something, she’ll realise and remember for next time?

Again, sorry you’re dealing with this, I think I would lose it if it happened to me.

[zoiecat]

I am sorry that happened to you. It is very unprofessional of her and I would probably want to quit. Is it possible for you to send her an email expressing your concerns and frustration. It sounds like there is a huge disconnect and you have not been able to connect with her to straighten things out. Try not to take it personally.

[Omers]

I’m sorry, that sucks. My T is really bad with technology but he is much more supportive and attentive than that.

[Rive.]

Let me get this straight - you had a 5pm appointment and she texts you at 6pm, asking where you are?? AFTER she left you dangling the previous session? Wow.

She is really messing up with you. Blatant disregard of your time, feelings and emotional investment. And, at the risk of repeating myself, totally unprofessional.

Your pain is certainly understandable. I would not be able to stay with such a T.

[Shotokan]

I am sorry about what happened to you. That is totally irresponsible of her. I would not be able to work with a provider like that.

[nottrustin]

Did you hear from here today?

[Witchycreature]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

Did you hear from here today?

NO! T never tried to get in touch with me after I waited more than an hour, after trying to call her and it going to voicemail, and after texting her. She never tried to get back in touch that evening or the next day! I sent T a text the next day asking for either a session that day or times to be set for my sessions the next week AND STILL NO RESPONSE. I'm livid and if/when she gets in touch with me this week for a session this will be the first thing discussed.