[Lonelyinmyheart]

I've been having an absolutely awful time. Some weeks ago my T was rushed into hospital for an emergency procedure. There were several complications afterwards but she's now back home. I honestly didn't think she would make it and I was gearing myself up to lose her. All that mattered was that she would be okay. I'm massively relieved that she's now home although she's very weak and unwell and I have no idea when or even if therapy will resume.

I feel guilty because I feel utterly dreadful despite knowing she's home and likely to recover in time. I've hidden all my feelings from her - she has been in limited contact with me throughout - but obviously I've not said how frightened I was and how badly I've been struggling. When I heard she was home I just said to focus on herself and not worry about me. But I really feel awful. All the fears of losing her have come to the surface plus a really bad depression.

I've arranged to see another T this week and I'm not even sure if it's the right thing to do. I'm scared the T won't like the situation either because I'm still technically in therapy with another T. I don't want to replace T, it's just that I don't feel I'm coping and I have no idea when I'll see my regular T again.

I'm just so sad. I don't know why because T should eventually recover but I feel so devastated by it all

[LostOnTheTrail]

Hi Lonely,

That is a really tricky situation to be in. I don't know, but I think any good therapist would support their client seeking alternative help if they were unable to work or work effectively for a period of time.

I hope you are able to explain the situation to the T you are consulting with.

[Lonelyinmyheart]

My regular T would most likely be fine with it. I haven't told her simply because I don't want her to know how much pain I'm in. She's always wanted me to do what's right for me and this would be no different.

I'm more concerned that the new T wouldn't be comfortable with the situation. I won't know until I see her but from past experiences therapists don't always like to get involved if a client is in therapy with another T. This is a unique situation though so I hope she'd recognise the need for support as I'm really finding it hard.

[Merope]

I don’t think it’s different to when a T refers a client to another T for the amount of time they can’t be there. I would be very concerned if the T you are about to see doesn’t accept to work with you on a short term basis, until your current T gets better. It’s a scary time of uncertainty and you have to do what makes you feel better.

I’m so sorry this is such a stressful time for you. I’m glad your T is feeling better, but it doesn’t mean that this is easy for you. 2020 has threatened so much already and I think I would definitely struggle with this too.

[zoiecat]

I wouldn't worry about seeing another T. I know you really care for you other T and want to see her again, but who knows when that will be. In the meantime, do what is best for you. Your T would want you to.

[SlumberKitty]

I saw two T's for a time and they were both okay with it. They both worked on different stuff with me so it was okay. I think the circumstance you are in is extraordinary and that any decent T would understand. HUGS if wanted, Kit

[Rive.]

The sadness you feel makes sense. I see it as a loss, with regards to not being with your T anymore. It was abrupt and painful. Not to mention fear re their mortality and ability to be there for you.. This is triggering stuff.

Seeing T is not able to support you right now, there is no harm in seeking outside support. I think your T would support your efforts to self-care while she is out at the moment.