Is your T humble?

I think that one of the greatest attributes that a T can have is to be humble, and to be overt about their humility, referring often to the fact that they may be getting things wrong, missing things, misunderstanding. I’m wondering what others’ experiences are of humility in a T?

Only been seeing him for a couple of months but he’s fairly good with this. He’s admitted a few times that he has realised things that he has said could have been misinterpreted and caused me to have a negative reaction and he would be more careful and vigilant to this in the future. He always tells me that he wants to me let him know if he has said or done something wrong as he realises that he isn’t always going to get it right and there will be ruptures that he has caused. But as long as I raise it we can talk about it and work through it. Interestingly though he has never actually said sorry.

Mine seems to be, which I like. Humble people tend to be more down to earth in my experience, not that there’s anything wrong with not being so, but I find that quality more helpful in someone I’m asking for help.

I don't know that I ever have thought of it as humility, but maybe so. I just found them honest about themselves and completely willing and able to see their own errors and adjust.

I’m so amazed and impressed at what you all say about your T’s . Artley you said that yours is completely willingly to see their own ways and adjust. That’s awesome, and so different to what I experienced with my last T. I would find it a breath of fresh air to have a T like that. Mine was quite analytical and whenever I brought anything up about what she had said or done, her first response was an analysis of my reaction.

My therapist is a very honest down to earth person. I have always found her very easy to talk to and never ever feel like she is better then me. It's nice to have a therapist that makes therapy down to earth for me and knows when to apologize and knows when she has made a mistake.

She does reference her mistakes or missteps, but she does so begrudgingly or jokingly. So, no she doesn't show much humility. She is often keen to assert her authority (against which I retaliate). She is very defensive and I am aggressive so it creates a powerful and difficult dynamic between us, we often speak about this. Huh, yes, good question.

Yes. She often points out the areas where she falls short. She has no problem admitting when she has made a mistake. Sometimes she will suggest I handle a situation a certain way, and when I explain why it would not work for me, she agrees that she doesn't don't have all the answers. When I have thanked her for all that she has done for me, she tells me it is her pleasure it the growth and change I have made are because of my strength and hard work. She is here to guide me on this journey and watch me grow but she is only there to help me.

I've been seeing my T for over 10 years - she is very humble which I love about her.

No - the therapists I hired were not humble. I haven't met any therapist in my professional life that I would describe as humble or down to earth. Humble and therapist have not found themselves combined in my experience.

Yes, she is.

Very much so. I would not stick around with an arrogant or know-it-all human.

He sounds great, in that he says there will be ruptures that he caused. My T never admitted that she had any hand in ruptures. What would it mean to you if he said sorry?

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins I don't know that I ever have thought of it as humility, but maybe so. I just found them honest about themselves and completely willing and able to see their own errors and adjust.

With regard to my T, I agree with Artley.

I agree that humble might not be the best word, but I can’t think of another that encapsulates exactly what you describe, which I think is what I mean.