Couch 224: 2day, 2morrow, 4evah!

Yep, I think if I recall right I did attempt to start again after i recovered from surgery but maybe i was afraid of falling down again or something.


Oh and yeah I did get a better pair of shoes too

omg now we need a i just spit out the sip of tea i just took laughing emoji

I was thinking something similar on my walk yesterday evening. And even briefly considered adopting a dog, we had a dog when I was growing up and I loved her, loved taking her for walks, etc and kinda miss that companionship, but quickly discarded the idea at least for right now because I don't think the 2 geriatric cats would adjust very well. Penny probably would because she's a young whippersnapper but the other 2 are pretty set in their ways.

Feeling a little better today. Not as paranoid. It's going to be a long day at work though. I miss my old coworker who got fired.

I'm glad it's a better day, Kit. Sorry you're missing your old coworker though.

I need to tell T how paranoid I was yesterday. I'm thinking how do I start that conversation? Probably the best way is, 'Oh btw, I had a bout of paranoia this week.' Just straight out with it. She's going to think I'm nuts.

Or she'll say, have you talked to Pdoc?

I texted T to remind me to bring up the paranoia if I don't bring it up. That way I can't get out of talking to her about it. Because I know me. By Saturday I'll be like, I'm fine. I don't need to talk about it. But when it comes around again, I will wish I had brought it up.

So proud of you for speaking up, Kit! You deserve to be able to access the support you want.

My newly licensed 17 yo daughter is going on a road trip to our capital city on Monday. It is 1345 km or 836 miles. It will take her abot 3-4 days. I dont know if this is good idea. She spoke to her father who has done the trip tons of time so he gave her some advice. I am just really anxious as she tends to be a timid driver and driving in the city is much worse than the country. My ex seems to think she will be alright. I feel like i am being a helicopter parent. I keep imaging all the things that could go wrong. She has insurance and a roadside assist membership.

Approached Info’s from a different angle and noticed the two story high phallic water feature outside her office.

Also she just walked by and appears to be wearing what I would describe as denim culottes-length bell buttons with a huge flounce.

I kind of admire her confidence, if not her style! I am meanwhile dressed in jeans, sneakers, and a nondescript hoodie. Lol!

It's good you did that, Kit. I've done things like that before with my T as well. Like "Make sure we talk about this in session."

My daughter's psychiatrist recommends that she go outside to "play" every day. She and her sister refused to go, so my sister and I went to the park and walked the track for about a mile. I hated everything about it. I have to go again tomorrow, hopefully minus the leg cramps!

All my pants have a huge flounce. they cant help it.

That would be my reaction as well, including thinking I was a helicopter parent. Best wishes for a great trip with no issues.

She has been on her own a lot? Is this trip very important for some reason? Is she going alone?

I would be sceptical of the safety issue. That is quite young to be put into an adult situation alone for such a long period of time. Of course there are cellphones now.

Wow, that's a really long trip. I'd be worried about just the long drive personally. So you're not being a helicopter parent at all. Is she driving by herself, or is someone going with hre? It's good she has the roadside assistance. Can you have her check in with your periodically, let you know her location? And is she staying overnight anyplace along the way?

My daughter is going with 2 friends to take one friend back to her parents and she will be driving back with the other friend. They are stopping in at my ex's house on the way and at various othe rplaces. She has really only driven on her own on the highway to her friends place about 30 mins from here. She has driven the 400 km to my ex's place when she was a learner so she knows about rest breaks. I think i am over reacting but i am really concerned by the traffic down there and the covid thing as well i guess.

I can't believe my T is willing to end 3 years of therapy over this issue. I'm furious and sad and incredulous.

The worst part is his attitude, his tone towards me. He just seems like he's sick of my crap and wants to be done with me.

This just feels so icky and horrible to me. I'm sorry he's doing this, you deserve leaps and bounds better than that!

I did my walk a little earlier this evening so it wouldn't be getting dark on me, it ended up being just a little over 1.5 miles. Day 2 of 10 days walking at least a mile a day - check! I think I'm going to try to go a little farther each day.

I'm so sorry...he is really out of line. Like, report him to the licensing board level out of line (not that I'm saying you should do that). It just doesn't make sense that he would end it over this.

I really wonder if it's that he's struggling with the fact that you'll be leaving later this year for your residency. So he's pushing you away? And/or that there's some serious countertransference going on. Almost like he can't handle your being happy in a romantic relationship. Whether due to jealousy or some weird paternal protective thing. Which does not at all excuse him. He really needs consultation. And to be questioning himself in what he's doing and why he's reacting this way.

Again, I'm really sorry...

Agreed that he needs consultation/supervision.

On top Info was wearing a yellow top and a bra that did not elevate her assets, which made them smaller.

I asked her about the thank you card she sent me. Nope, not a mistake of grief (which I didn’t think it was, given the long handwritten message inside). She said she wasn’t expecting clients to be so supportive and sent thank yous to those who were.

Chihiro’s therapist isn’t pushing her away imo. He is a bad therapist who thinks clients are best served by saying “how high?” when he says “jump!” I don’t think there’s any need to explain his behavior. This is who he is and has shown from the start. Consultation won’t help him unless it gets him to find a new career where he hurts fewer vulnerable people.