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Member Since Jun 2008
Location: WYLTK
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#281
man, could i use someone like you to talk to this week - facing some heavy 'body blows'. but i can't reach out to you, i just can't......
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ArtieTheSequal, LonesomeTonight, Mystical_Being, SlumberKitty
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
Posts: 7,291
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#282
The only thing my incessant worry does is to rob my "now" of joy. It doesn't magically protect me and my loved ones, because **** happens sometimes anyway that's just life. Somehow I've convinced myself that when **** didn't happen, it was because I worried enough to prevent it, and when **** did happen, it was my fault because I didn't worry enough. I don't know how to fix this. Obviously you don't either, or else, it just takes a really really long time to fix and the above realization finally coming through is part of fixing it. I don't know but I rather feel like I'm losing my mind. Maybe I'm only losing the part that I don't need? I don't know. I wish it was Friday already.
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Tweaky Dog
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
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#283
I can be polite about it, but I have straight up had enough of people I come to trust leaving. I can't really believe I'm doing this again, although under slightly better circumstances. At least she had the decency to tell me personally.
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Member Since Jan 2018
Location: Somewhere in a cloud
Posts: 719
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#284
Ughhh can you just reply?!
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just2b, LonesomeTonight, Mystical_Being, SlumberKitty
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
Posts: 20,832
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#285
Dear T,
Still feeling kind of rough after the shot--maybe I should have just canceled, but I was feeling better this morning. Just bear with me if I'm a bit spacey. And maybe if I'm really out of it, you'd be willing to make it a half-session? We'll see in 20 minutes... Love, LT |
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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#286
Dear T,
I hope that email helps and you're not mad at me for mentioning that. It would be great if you could reply tonight, but tomorrow morning is OK. I think not feeling well messed with my filter. I also wonder if whether part of what was hard for me was your talking about similar experiences with your son with gifts when I was talking about my D. And talking about stuff like that made it feel more friend-like. So then the money just felt more jarring.... But I can't mention that to you. Love, LT |
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Member Since Aug 2019
Location: The World
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#287
Oh T, things were going so well in today’s session but you just had to go mess it up within the last 15 minutes. I really appreciate that you have clearly taken on board what I wrote in my email and you were trying to meet some of my needs that I talked about.
But then calling my childhood experiences a ‘case of parents using old fashioned parenting techniques’ felt like you were completely downplaying what happened to me. We have talked about the fact that I witnessed domestic abuse, I was on the receiving end of violence from my dad, I was verbally abused by my mom and dad and had none of my emotional needs met. It was hard for me to accept that this was abuse when I worked with my previous T, but eventually I did. But now you’ve made me think I’m just being a drama queen and I’m making it out to be worse than what it was and I should just get over it as it was just old fashioned parenting and it’s no big deal. Why did you have to say that? I feel so stupid and ashamed. |
ArtieTheSequal, just2b, LonesomeTonight, Lostislost, Mystical_Being, SlumberKitty
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catches the flowers
Member Since Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
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#288
I wish I could be more genuine with you on Friday. Really open up and explain to you how I think I'm doing. But I don't know the words to use. If we were meeting in person I'd be able to explain much more easily. Teletherapy has worn me down. A lot of my inspiration is flat.
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
Posts: 7,291
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#289
i'm hurting and really struggling tonight L i wish i could talk to you right now for reals not just the 'you' in my head. i'm thinking every negative thought possible about myself right now and I can't shut it off. why does my mom so excel at making me feel terrible about myself?
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Poohbah
Member Since Jan 2020
Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave
Posts: 1,243
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#290
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Tweaky Dog
Member Since Aug 2011
Location: England
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#291
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Member Since Apr 2021
Location: GB
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#292
I'm trying to loose as much as I can before our next and final appointment, just so you can worry about me a little bit. I know you probably won't, and that we've already had more than my allocated sessions for my treatment, but to be honest I think I'm worse than when we first started. I just wish that someone would care.
Ps. I think we should be able to have more sessions, bearing in mind that I've never met you due to lockdown and all our sessions have been over the telephone. I don't even know what you look like, and so cannot imagine you in my mind and pretend to be having helping discussions with you. I wonder what you would say if I admitted that to you... |
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
Posts: 7,291
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#293
I haven't done the 2nd part of my homework yet. Oops.
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catches the flowers
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#294
I'm so glad we have a session tomorrow. I just wish so hard that it was in person. I am entirely burned out on the teletherapy ritual.
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Aug 2020
Location: England
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#295
I’m not sure if I’m getting a slight attachment to you or not. I kind of missed seeing you today, since you needed to cancel, but it was a very mild feeling. Almost not even there, really. Then again, this is the reason I started coming to see you. It makes me feel abnormal.
On another hand, I sometimes fantasise that I don’t have these issues - in my fantasies you’re also not my T, but instead we’re just really good friends. |
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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#296
Dear T,
So, the conversation and email about the money were making me think more about how this is really just a professional relationship, and I need to accept that. But then you randomly send me something in the evening that you think might help my friend. And that, to me, shows that you care not just about my well-being, but that of my friend, too. And that means a lot. Love, LT |
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Member Since May 2020
Location: Uk
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#297
I woke up with a jump this morning from a horrible dream, my head still hurts and I don't feel like I can tell you it because it will take far too long to discuss. I have no idea what any of it means.
Hate starting the day like this. |
*Beth*, LonesomeTonight, RoxanneToto, SlumberKitty
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Member Since Jan 2017
Location: UK
Posts: 189
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#298
Why did you say that? Why did you tell me that you care about me and that you want to keep working with me?
Knowing that there is someone who cares about me and wants to help me and believes in me, but who I will have no more contact with just makes me feel so much worse.. |
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#299
So glad I'm seeing you later today. Much to talk about!
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LonesomeTonight, SlumberKitty
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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#300
Dear T,
It also means a lot that you volunteered to see me on a few Sundays to help me wean down from 3 times a week when I'm ready. I know you typically see a few clients on Sundays and have seen me then on occasion, but last you said, you'd rather not see any more then than you have to. So your offering it without my asking is significant to me. I need to think on how I want to do this. And like I said, I think it would be easier if I just kept the same frequency for May, then looked at June as a time to maybe start making changes. Because it's going to take some time for me to get back out there in the world, to get other things in place, and to be trying to do that AND start reducing sessions in May seems like way too much. But it really helps to know that you're willing to be flexible once I'm ready. Love, LT |
*Beth*, SlumberKitty, Taylor27
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