Couch 232: Not Sully!

LostOnTheTrail · Oct 05, 2021, 01:16 PM

"I feel I'm doing what's in my best interests at this point, to avoid needing a higher level of care."

I'm sorry you're struggling so much, Kit.

SlumberKitty · Oct 05, 2021, 01:42 PM

Thank you, Lost.

stopdog · Oct 05, 2021, 01:54 PM

I don't think it matters much what your parents think. Do what is right for you and ignore them on it.

ElectricManatee · Oct 05, 2021, 02:10 PM

Kit, maybe that's a good non-crisis-time topic for your individual IOP T? Family stuff like that can be really important and interesting to dig into.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 05, 2021, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo

I couldn't get past the door staff.

I'll put you on the guest list next dream!

SlumberKitty · Oct 05, 2021, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Kit, maybe that's a good non-crisis-time topic for your individual IOP T? Family stuff like that can be really important and interesting to dig into.

Thanks I put it on my list!

unaluna · Oct 05, 2021, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I wanted to say to my parents, it's either this or the hospital, you're choice.....but I didn't want to upset them, even though they upset me!

I had a boss tell me to come in once, when i was literally shaking from exhaustion. I show up, and i was like, "wtf was so important that you needed me in here?!" And he goes, "oh, i thought you just needed ENCOURAGEMENT to show up." I wanted to encourage his scrawny little neck! So i wonder if your parents are just giving you rote responses, which of course WAS the problem. SO listen to stopdog, not them!

ie and just listen to yourself.

unaluna · Oct 05, 2021, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

Apparently.

I thought she meant "the former guy". Im not up to date on what you kids are reading for fun these days.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 05, 2021, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Kit, maybe that's a good non-crisis-time topic for your individual IOP T? Family stuff like that can be really important and interesting to dig into.

I second this. Discussing ways to assert yourself and set boundaries with your parents. And to not let childhood messages dictate how you live now. That last part often comes up in my therapy, including yesterday. It's difficult to get those voices out of your head, and I imagine it's considerably more difficult when you live with them and see them daily.

I also think it's good that you're realizing you're doing too much and taking care of yourself by taking the day off.

NP_Complete · Oct 05, 2021, 03:20 PM

Jury duty is over. Whatever the trial was, they settled and didn't even need a jury, so all of us basically sat in a room for several hours. They played a movie for us, so I was able to distract myself from thinking about previous courthouse visits. Thanks for all the hugs. It was helpful.

CantExplain · Oct 05, 2021, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

... and I was relieved to not have to tell her that I'm not attracted to her.

Would it have been easier to say you were?

CantExplain · Oct 05, 2021, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Haha....that's the ultimate lesson in being careful about abbreviations.

Men can be a bit coy about Eating Disorders.

CantExplain · Oct 05, 2021, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

It's very frustrating. I have 4 hours to figure out what to talk about. Last week I had a list. But today no list at least not yet. I'm trying to think about what is important to bring up. It's just so hard.

Madame T was generally relieved on the rare occasions when I didn't have a list.

ElectricManatee · Oct 05, 2021, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Would it have been easier to say you were?

I'm honestly not attracted to her, and it would feel a little mean to say so out loud, regardless of context.

SlumberKitty · Oct 05, 2021, 04:22 PM

T appointment went well. We discussed the possibility of doing some inner child work. She also told me that I got some more days approved through my insurance for IOP. I don't know how many or what she's talking about. I'll have to talk to Ray my case manager. But we are going to meet again on Friday. We talked about getting my needs met and how that relates to self harm.

LostOnTheTrail · Oct 05, 2021, 04:28 PM

I'm glad the appointment was useful, Kit. Also thankful that your insurance approved more time for you in the IOP programme. Hope it's enough time to be meaningful.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 05, 2021, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Jury duty is over. Whatever the trial was, they settled and didn't even need a jury, so all of us basically sat in a room for several hours. They played a movie for us, so I was able to distract myself from thinking about previous courthouse visits. Thanks for all the hugs. It was helpful.

Glad to hear it wasn't too bad! That happened one time that I was called as well.

CantExplain · Oct 05, 2021, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I'm honestly not attracted to her, and it would feel a little mean to say so out loud, regardless of context.

Madame T asked me directly, and I said, "You're not my type, sorry."

atisketatasket · Oct 05, 2021, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

SO listen to stopdog

*takes note of this post to whip out the next time you two have a dust-up*

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 05, 2021, 09:15 PM

I got off work at 2pm today (work 5a-2p this week in Chat), made a meatloaf, cleaned up the kitchen, went for a walk, and then crocheted until about half hour ago. Finished through round 31 of the mandala afghan, pic is only through round 30 though. It's still a little curled on the edge from 3 rounds in a row of front post double crochet, but it is already flattening out again now. I'm so tickled with how it's looking!!

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 05, 2021, 09:16 PM

Hugs all around to those who want/need. It's past my bedtime when I get up at 4:30a so nighty night couch!

velcro003 · Oct 05, 2021, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

I had a very similar conversation with my T yesterday! My T said that we have a long history of caring for each other even though I felt bad right at that moment and that she doesn't want me to go away. My attachment stuff was all activated as she said this so I didn't really believe her, but it was nice to hear anyway. It actually sounds from your Dear T posts like you're on the cusp of big things with her, so she's probably intrigued to hear more about what you want to tell her.

Thanks, EM. Unless she cancels last minute (been known to happen), I guess I'll find out tomorrow. EEK.

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Therapy today with Individual IOP T. I don't feel in crisis so as usual, when I am not in crisis, I have no idea what I am going to talk about. I could bring up what we talked about in the grief class last week because she taught that class and she seemed to think it was important to bring up with my individual T (her). I think she said it that way so she wouldn't reveal to the group that I was her client. Ha. Client confidentiality and all is a little funny sometimes. I'm not sure when my IOP is ending. Tomorrow is 30 days. They said if you make 30 days you get to go into aftercare but I don't know if IOP can go longer than 30 days if your insurance pays for it. My case manager hasn't really been in contact so I am just going with the flow but it makes me anxious. I really hope that individual T will agree to see me after we are done with IOP. She's so much better than Dr. K. I hate her sometimes but that's because she pushes me. I love her other times. I have no feelings whatsoever for Dr. K. It's like talking to wallpaper paste with him. No feedback. I just talk and then he nods and usually agrees with me. It's very frustrating. I have 4 hours to figure out what to talk about. Last week I had a list. But today no list at least not yet. I'm trying to think about what is important to bring up. It's just so hard.

I feel ya with the "if I am not in crisis I have nothing to talk about" thing. I have the same problem. I saw you got approved for more days, so yay!

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I finally realized what's causing the major stress about jury duty. It's the courthouse. This place is very much associated with the fire for me. Testifying for the grand jury, seeing him in shackles at his first hearing, getting the first restraining order, his sentencing all happened at the courthouse.

This sounds absolutely horrifying. Glad you didn't end up having to do jury duty.

Daffydungle · Oct 05, 2021, 10:49 PM

artei i love the afghan

Daffydungle · Oct 05, 2021, 10:50 PM

Hugs SLumberKitty

Daffydungle · Oct 05, 2021, 10:53 PM

I totally suck at making conversation.
I was asking my daughters bf if was looking forward to the drive to the next major town, a 4 hour drive, where they are staying at friends. He said drives are always boring. I couldnt think of what to say after that, as the thought of driving somewhere being boring is just such a foreign concept all i could say was O.K. I wish i could be more conversational.

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