[CantExplain]

Does T care how much you hurt? Or is your pain a matter of indifference?

[sarahsweets]

I dont know if someone's therapist can say they "care" about a clients hurt but I do believe therapists generally are concerned with how the hurt affects your treatment.

[unaluna]

I hope they dont care if your butt-hurt.

[ElectricManatee]

Yes, my therapist has told me many times that she cares about me and my feelings/pain, and I believe her.

[Lonelyinmyheart]

Yes, absolutely. If a therapist didn't they would be in the wrong job.

I have had 2 separate therapists tell me they don't.

one telling me that they were going to break me what ever happens (charming), and other telling me to just stop moaning and

Possible trigger:

kill myself

as for the rest?. well: they've not said they do or they don't either way,, but it doesn't feel like it

[stopdog]

I doubt they care one way or the other. I do think they give lip service to it. For me, it wouldn't have mattered what the therapist thought about it. I didn't hire one of them to have them care about anything other than the one thing they failed at -explaining to me what I paid them for and how any of it was supposed to help with why I hired them in the first place.

[ArtieTheSequal]

I've pretty much always felt that L does.

[atisketatasket]

Do they professionally care? Sure. (Or they should, like a doctor should care about a patient’s physical pain.). It’s the job.

But if you mean personally, I think that would depend on the therapist and their relationship with that specific client.

[Rive.]

No. I don't think T truly cares, or grasps, how much I hurt.

[Elio]

I think it depends on the type of modality they use and the issues they are willing to treat.

So for some - caring and not getting entangled in your hurt - even if it is them that hurt you is par for the course. Part of keeping boundaries and so on.

Given what's been going on with me and my T for the last month - a part of me hopes she cares enough to have gotten pissed at my reactions/behaviors and used her own outlets to address it. And maybe a bit guilty. Because having both those reactions would mean our connection is one of humanity - I am touching her humanity just as she is touching mine. Granted I've been with the same T for 6 yrs - doing attachment based therapy, if it's all been a lie/illusion - then I hope I never really wake from that part of it. She's stated she cares and sent thoughts of comfort - really, I get to choose if I believe/trust her or if I don't. And there are parts that still don't trust her and others that completely believe and trust her.

[Salmon77]

Yes, I think so. I've been seeing him for years and we have a good relationship.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Yes, I think L does. Least when she mirrors, she seems to really get it. Most the time, she has better words than I can even come up with. And her facial expressions often reflect the mood. Sometimes she's a little too much in rational mind and I have to remind her that I need emotional attunement and empathy. Rational mind is her default, but she is really good at empathy. She says she cares about me and my pain. She says that I matter and my pain matters. I believe her. Plus our number one rule is honesty, and so far I believe she's been honest with me.

[Taylor27]

Yes, I sure do my t always lets me know I can phone in between sessions and she seems to care about me allot more then previous t's in the past. Even when she was gone on sick leave this past spring she told me she thought of me allot while she was away.

[unaluna]

I am beginning to see that i would not make a very good t. "Oh your just butt-hurt. Go away kid, you bother me!" Its the WC Fields school of psychology and parenting. Woulda been better if i had imprinted on some geese like in that movie.

[ArtleyWilkins]

Yes, they both professionally and personally.

[ThunderGoddess]

I think I had one T that cared other than that I feel like they don't care and I feel their responses are cold and detached in response to what I say about my emotional pain.

[velcro003]

Yeah, I believe my T cares about my pain, personally and professionally. She has shown me in many different ways over the years.

[Amyjay]

I think my therapist cares, but I also think that doesn't even matter. Like - so what? She has feelings of care, but that doesn't change anything or help in any meaningful way.

Her emotional experience of "care" is as equally helpful as not caring. It doesn't matter one whit.

[nottrustin]

I have always felt like my 2 therapists care about me. They both have said so and also showed me.

[Mountaindewed]

I couldn’t tell with one of my therapists. She would always ask how I was feeling and seemed to care. But one time right before telehealth started I told her I was feeling S and she seemed super concerned and then half an hour later I had my mom call her to tell her I was ok and she just laughed it off and said she wasn’t going to call 911 to my house.

But during the session she sure made it seem like it was a big deal. It was confusing. She’s never responded to any of my emails since ending things. I sent one a few weeks ago and she never responded.

My last unprofessional one cared when I was hurt and she was always asking how I was feeling and and if I was ok and stuff after getting my Covid shots or having surgery or whatever.

My current one doesn’t show any emotion or give any type of feedback. She just asks questions. She’s a bit of a blank slate but in a cold robot type way. Like I think she cares but she doesn’t really show it.

[satsuma]

Yes, I definitely think so. But he needs to have a way to not care too much. Otherwise if he was upset when his clients were upset then he would spend too much of his life being upset, because people often seek out therapy because of upsetting things.

[Waterbear]

Right now, I would have to say no... Which goes against everything that I have ever known or felt about her. To say I am confused is an understatement.

[MoxieDoxie]

They care if you are going to hurt yourself or others and then it becomes more work for them to get you under control. If you are no danger then they care for the 50 mins you are in the room with them. After the session they move on and forget you exist until your next session.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I'm sorry that's your experience, but not all Ts are like that.

I know I don't disappear for L or T after the 50mins. L checks in everyday with me, and sometimes sends me links to things that remind her of me.