[justbreathe1994]

I haven’t posted in awhile because I’m doing pretty well. I recently moved out of state to go to grad school and have been seeing my therapist remotely over video for the interim since the licensing boards have relaxed some restrictions re meeting across state lines in our states. Since this is a temporary thing though, I’ll need to transition to a new therapist in the state I’m located during in the next few months. My T has helped me tremendously and while I have struggled with attachment to a therapist in the past, my current T and I have a very solid/healthy relationship. In the past, she has stated she wants to stay in touch, ending doesn’t have to be black and white, etc which meant a lot to me however I’m worried that if I bring it up/express anxiety around terminating, she’ll think I’m being clingy even though that’s not the case. Even still, it’s causing me a lot of anxiety about how to bring it up with her. I also feel pressure to appear that I’m doing well and not struggling with anything so that she won’t be worried about me in that regard either.

[SprinkL3]

I'm worried about what you're worried about - even before it has happened.

I want to move out of state so badly, but then I risk losing my T. In the state where I currently live, my T isn't allowed to continue with telehealth or video appointments at all. The rules are per state, and so this state sucks all around.

So, I stay. I stay to save money, pay off credit cards, and process more things with my T.

I'm honest with my T about my feelings, even if I'm clingy with her. She's okay with that. She knows how to handle that, and we work those things through. I think my being open with my T has brought us closer, and has allowed me to feel more secure and less clingy with her - over the period of 2 years that I've seen her.

I think if you are honest with your T, it will help when it comes time for closure. Hopefully you can bring all these things up so that your T could help you transition more, and spend more time with you before that transition transpires. Maybe your T could offer a monthly or quarterly check-in. Asking your T what it would look like to transition and then to keep in touch after the transition would help to put your mind at ease. That isn't clingy; that's more planning and communication. I think your T would understand.

It's also okay to be clingy with your T. Your T will be able to help you with that, and with the transition, too.