Couch 236: NY PS Langston Hughes

Thanks for asking, QM. The poet is David Whyte, and the poem is called Winter Grief.

Winter Grief

Its always been Carlton for me.

I find Jada to be a little high strung.

Other than just blurbs on the internet - I don't know anything about her. If any of the blurby stuff is true -every member of the smith family is batshit.

Dr. T's very typical guy comment regarding periods (trigger warning just in case):


I also said something about how he should be glad he doesn't have to deal with them, and he said that he does in a way because he is married. Yeah, that's not the same thing!

Lol, I really dislike Dylan's voice, and reading that about ex-MC made me chuckle. A first in quite some time.

I feel a little like I am grieving "too much" for my cat. It has been 6 weeks, and it has not gotten any easier. In some ways, more difficult. My T's understand, but I feel like nobody outside of therapy gets the level of grief I have over losing my best buddy.

hugs if wanted, velcro. I'm sorry. I think that grief is as individual as people are and there's no such thing as a timeline for the process. i still have moments where I get a little teary-eyed thinking about Rascal, especially when a picture of him pops up in my facebook memories, and it's been like 3.5 months since he passed. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this difficult time, and I hope that you can begin to give yourself some grace.

H just left for a job that will take about 4 hours, so I'm heading to bed a little earlier than usual to watch reruns of Full House. Oh, and I wrote a practice poem today getting ready for the poem-a-day challenge for April, National Poetry Month! The subject was what happened after L closed the door behind me after our last session, from her perspective. I'm even more determined than last year to succeed at the challenge. I'm spending a little time each day this week too, going through my books about poetry forms and looking through my older poems to see if there's any I want to re-write. Night couchies!

Thanks Artie, I appreciate the support.

Hugs if wanted, Velcro. I haven't lost a pet, though what happened in my old living situation means I'll likely never get to see those 3 cats ever again

Also sending hugs, Velcro. Grieving takes as long as it takes. I also wonder if it's more difficult because you didn't really get closure?


I'm not sure if you've done something like this already, but maybe you could discuss with one of your T's ways that you could have some sort of goodbye ceremony/ritual? Or maybe someone on here would have ideas?

The NYT has a good article on medical gaslighting but the best part is reading the comments and all the men who write to say that because they haven't experienced the terrible interactions with mds what women do -women are lying.

I think jokes about almost everything are okay. I have hair loss and I joke about it. I am getting more and more cranky about everyone being a hothouse flower.

The man's job is to be a comedian (Chris Rock). Was the joke funny?

I don't know, because I got tired of them giving awards for movies that were edgy or tackled progressive social topics instead of based on the quality of the acting. Looking at you, Brokeback Mountain. Those two men were no more in love than...cabbage and tomatoes.

My point is that comedians should be funny. Comedy has to push the boundaries of what is considered to be "in good taste" or all we are left with is The Family Circus. Do we really want to live in that fresh hell? Stopdog and I, for two, do not.

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Brokeback Mountain made me cry more than one time, so... guess I'm a cry baby.

The story itself was appealing, I think. Larry McMurty wrote it and Ang Lee won an Oscar for directing. I just thought the acting from the two male leads was... not that great in this particular film.

And it's okay if we disagree.

I have cried at movies that I didn't think deserved an Oscar, for that matter. Movies I am quite too ashamed to admit. Movies like that animated one all the therapists love with the emotions come to life inside the little girl's head. Inside Out. Ugh. I cried at that movie but not about the emotions. It was the moving scene, because I was forced to move across the country when young and hated it, too.

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All I remember about brokeback mountain is about the herding dogs. I was taking one of my dogs to sheep herding lessons and sheep herding woman and I had quite the discussion about the dogs in the movie

Now I want to enroll myself in sheep herding lessons.

So my mother is in renal failure, suddenly, out of the blue. Still in the getting more tests phase, though, so hopefully it is not too serious.

And she is stubbornly insisting she doesn’t need anyone there. I’m considering going up after class tomorrow regardless.

I am sorry to hear about your mother. I would go in that situation as well.

I always feel a ton better after i have mopped the floors, why cant i seem to get the motivation to do them more often. I know i get frustrated when i mop Nd the dogs walk all the mud over the floor and i get depressed because i have to do again. Anyway my sons dog is going back in a couple of months. In other news my son is starting testosterone this week.

@@ just read about your mother i hope she gets the treatment she needs.

Holy carp. I hope its a false alarm like my mother had. Scares the crap out of you tho.

Wow i just found an old (1980s) Japanese live action show that was shown in the kids viewing spot on our govt tv channel on Netflix and they have rated it M for mature audiences. It was heavily kung fu based. Boy times have changed.

I'm sorry, @@. I also think going to see and support her is the thing to do. I hope it's not that serious, or at least as non-serious as renal failure can be. Is she on any new medications maybe? I know some can affect the kidneys.

I'm sorry, @@. Like LT said I hope it's at least as non-serious as renal failure can be.