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My therapist recently (unexpectedly, painfully, cravenly) ended my therapy via email. In her email, she gave me a referral to another therapist. Since I could not discuss this with my ex-therapist, I don't know anything about the referral therapist. I have emailed the referral and she has said she would work with me.
However, on reflection I want to explain more about my needs before I commit (emotionally and financially) to an initial session. I have written a draft email to the referral explaining my concerns/needs in more detail. I feel self-conscious that it is too detailed and exposing, but equally I want to be clear with her before I take the step of meeting her. Would anyone be up for reading it and giving me their thoughts please? I am open to hearing negative as well as positive so don't feel you would need to sugar coat your feedback. |
![]() LonesomeTonight, RTerroni, SlumberKitty
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#2
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Sure, I'll read the email.
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#3
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Yes, of course I'll read it - and give the best feedback I can. And perhaps you wrote about this in your email, but I'll mention it - many therapists offer an initial session at no charge. Might your referral therapist be willing to do that?
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I'd be up for reading it. I mean, I expressed something similar to Dr. T re:ex-MC (and also to a couple T's with whom I consulted about Dr. T), so I have experience!
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Yes, this would have been ideal. She was very clear in her reply that the initial session would be an assessment and what she would charge. If I work with her, I will ask for an ongoing concession rate. Thank you for your suggestion.
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![]() *Beth*
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#6
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I can read it if you think my feedback would be useful at all. Sorry to hear your ex T treated you like that!
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#7
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I've messaged you.
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I would be open.
May I just say - what a very un-gestalt way for your T to drop you. I am appalled. Is this the 'relational' your T has been trained in? The 'dialogue' and staying at the table that she was supposedly trained in. I am sorry she was such a jerk. |
![]() *Beth*, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2
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I don't mind either Comrade. I know you have a lot of offers already, and we don't always see eye to eye, but if you want a different perspective, I'm open. If not, I'm not offended either.
I have written and talked to Ts about my needs, wants, and goals before working with them. I find it very beneficial to just be upfront and honest. I don't go blurting out my secrets, but I do set my requirements and expectations from the start. It's one of the reasons L chose to work with me.
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"Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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I'm not really around any more, but just wanted to say how gutting it is when a therapist ends things. I had one with the nerve to tell me I wanted to quit (she had some mad gaslighting moves, that one) and then wouldn't schedule me except for a final session--something you didn't even get and that's just all kinds of wrong. When I finally pulled myself together, I was very upfront with a prospective therapist--the only one, frankly, who returned my email and offered a free consultation on the phone. I laid it all out there, and she was still on the phone by the end of it. I was too raw and wounded to start again, so spent the first couple of years wailing about therapy as organized crime and she didn't wither. I wouldn't know what to advise you. Not getting a free consultation is a real racket. How do these people get away with that?
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![]() *Beth*, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2
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Thank you. Well, what can I say? She was Gestalt when it suited her, Łuck me when it didn't. One of the many things which stings is that I had developed some trust that she was committed to the work with me, despite all the difficulty and ruptures. She did show herself to be there, until she wasn't.
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![]() *Beth*, LonesomeTonight, ScarletPimpernel, SlumberKitty, Waterbear
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#12
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How did it go, comrade?
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![]() LonesomeTonight
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