Couch 239: Cape Coral Couch

I worry about you

I remember thinking how "labor" - Labor Day - and menses were connected and thought that a great coincidence. That kind of joke would NOT have flown at home, but it proves Mother Nature has a sense of humor!

Also I got declined for SSI but I am thinking about appealing it.

Also I got declined for SSI but I am thinking about appealing it.

Appeal, if you can.
And, you may know this, don’t miss an appeal date. If you are in the U.S., they have to back pay to the date you first applied.
Not sure abt the rules in other countries.

Mine was declined initially but approved upon first appeal.

Is that Aramaic for "thats really funny!"?

Oy. So I think I have gotten myself into a situation with a stranger that I wish I hadn't.

This isn't exactly about therapy but I'm posting it here because as you all know I tend to have trouble with boundaries.

So I'm in a religious Facebook group. And about a week ago someone posted that they really needed gas money to get them through until Wednesday this week. They posted their Venmo name. So I sent them some $ because I had some I could send. Well now this person has sent me 2 more requests for money, through direct messaging. It's smaller amounts like $50 or $30. So each time I have sent the money. Yesterday she (I'm assuming she because it is a women's Facebook group and the name is feminine) sent me back $30 so I was like, okay. That's good. Because I honestly just thought it was going to be gone forever. But then today she direct messaged me again for $30. So I sent it, reluctantly. A) I don't get paid until Friday so I need to have a little left over for me just in case. B) This is the third time in about a week she has asked for money. And it's a little annoying for one, and I'm a little leery now too. Because the first ask was supposed to get her through to this week.

To be clear we are not friends on Facebook. I don't know this person at all. She said she would pay me back tomorrow for the money I loaned her today. I guess the original $50 I am not getting paid back, whatever, that's fine. I'm thinking I want to block her somehow after tomorrow, if she does pay me back, from being able to direct message me. I think asking a stranger three times for money is kind of weird, in one week. What was meant to be a blessing to her has now become uncomfortable for me. I hope she pays me back but if she doesn't, she doesn't. C'est la vie.

Does anyone else think this is weird? How do I unentangle myself? Should I wait until tomorrow to block her to see if she will pay me back? Ugh. I had no idea what I was getting into.

I guess, what she says is first she needed gas to get her child to school. Then it was diapers and formula because she just had a baby early this month. But her grandma was going to send her money so I guess that is how she paid back the $30. Then now it is gas again and laundry soap and dinner.

I don't know what to think. But I don't want to keep being her bank either. But then I feel like I am not being religious enough if I say no. Or maybe I won't be able to say no--hence why I want to block her.

I don't know. Kit

I remember thinking how "labor" - Labor Day - and menses were connected and thought that a great coincidence. That kind of joke would NOT have flown at home, but it proves Mother Nature has a sense of humor!

no it is english for you freudians and your fascination with bodily functions.

I'm hanging around waiting for the new local grief counselor to log on. Saw another one (Baby Face) near my mother's, now switching to this one since I'm home now. Third session.

She has no nickname yet, but she has fire engine red hair and annoys the heck out of me, in case you all have any ideas.

Also needed to take an Ativan today at work around noon to calm down after this overwhelming wave of grief and stress hit. Usually I need Ativan rarely, like once every two months, and not during the day but at night.

I'm hanging around waiting for the new local grief counselor to log on. Saw another one (Baby Face) near my mother's, now switching to this one since I'm home now. Third session.

She has no nickname yet, but she has fire engine red hair and annoys the heck out of me, in case you all have any ideas.

Also needed to take an Ativan today at work around noon to calm down after this overwhelming wave of grief and stress hit. Usually I need Ativan rarely, like once every two months, and not during the day but at night.

I had another follow up Interview and they told me they would call me with a decision later today. I al have a phone interview for a dog-sitter job in about a half-hour.