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Default Jul 24, 2023 at 03:10 AM
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Is this in the barbi movie?
Ken is a character in the movie.

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stopdog and una should genuinely be on the stage. What a perfect comedic set up, execution and delivery. #1 groupie here. (stopdog will warm to me eventually, no one can resist a groupie for ever, she's only human after all).
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Default Jul 24, 2023 at 05:34 AM
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Our act will only use words with the letter k in them, since that movie said they were funny. So far we have ken and ilk.

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Dennis the Peasant: "You can't expect to wield supreme power just 'cause some watery tart threw a sword at you"
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I just watched my son say that very line last night in Spamalot. He is an excellent Dennis on and off stage. Heh.

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I think you’re being too harsh on yourself Art. Don’t think the others would think you were being a dweeb at all. Feeling supported and heard is the most important aspect. Glad you found a good group.
Thanks Lemoncake. Ugh, I wonder if I will ever learn to let go of these codependent behaviors (constantly needing/craving external approval is of course one of them) and that's what I was doing, huh, worrying about looking like a dweeb.

Well, progress over perfection, right? I'm definitely making progress in the area of my relationship with h - as far as letting him manage his own 'stuff' (feelings, etc). In the past I did not know how to do that at all and was constantly making problems where there didn't have to be. I've been able to see in the past couple of months just how much of the problems between us I was causing!! He's not blameless, of course, but working on my part of it has certainly helped a lot.
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stopdog and una should genuinely be on the stage. What a perfect comedic set up, execution and delivery. #1 groupie here. (stopdog will warm to me eventually, no one can resist a groupie for ever, she's only human after all).
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Thanks Lemoncake. Ugh, I wonder if I will ever learn to let go of these codependent behaviors (constantly needing/craving external approval is of course one of them) and that's what I was doing, huh, worrying about looking like a dweeb.

Well, progress over perfection, right? I'm definitely making progress in the area of my relationship with h - as far as letting him manage his own 'stuff' (feelings, etc). In the past I did not know how to do that at all and was constantly making problems where there didn't have to be. I've been able to see in the past couple of months just how much of the problems between us I was causing!! He's not blameless, of course, but working on my part of it has certainly helped a lot.
Yes progress over trying to be perfect.

Do you also do other fun stuff just for yourself that doesn't necessarily involve working on yourself? Maybe that would help you also get out of your head.

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Yes progress over trying to be perfect.

Do you also do other fun stuff just for yourself that doesn't necessarily involve working on yourself? Maybe that would help you also get out of your head.
I read and crochet.... I haven't played around with painting in a while, maybe I'll get that stuff out after work one day this week. Thanks.
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*sigh* It looks like H is about to lose another job... Everything I'm dealing with is too much for me!!!

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You do not know our Stopdog, but there is always hope
She is a tough cookie!
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*sigh* It looks like H is about to lose another job... Everything I'm dealing with is too much for me!!!

Ugh, I'm so sorry, Scarlet. He hasn't been at this one very long, right?
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Saw Dr. T's backup, R, today. As usual, she was very insightful (talking about stuff with Dr. T and how it ties into my past). May post more on it later. I see her again Wednesday, too.
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*sigh* It looks like H is about to lose another job... Everything I'm dealing with is too much for me!!!
Man, that is a lot to deal with. I'm sorry. This would stress me out. Either he's the unluckiest guy ever or he's doing something that's causing him to lose these jobs. Maybe he needs a therapist to figure this out.
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Ugh, I'm so sorry, Scarlet. He hasn't been at this one very long, right?
I think a couple of months? Not long at all.

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Man, that is a lot to deal with. I'm sorry. This would stress me out. Either he's the unluckiest guy ever or he's doing something that's causing him to lose these jobs. Maybe he needs a therapist to figure this out.
I think there's a few reasons why he keeps losing jobs:
1. He's working for little companies that need him because they're failing.
2. He doesn't play office politics.
3. He's remote so it's hard to catch a problem in the moment and fix it in the moment.
4. He thinks he's always right.
5. He's a compulsive liar and exaggerates what he can do or has done.

He is good at what he does which is why he tends to find a job quickly. And he does work very meticulously and fast.

I just wish he could maintain a stable job.

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I talked to L on the phone and it helped some. She told me to let her worry about the logistics of everything that needs to get done before her leave. She told me to let H take care of HIS job problems. And for me to just focus on myself and work on processes all my emotions and staying safe.

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I read and crochet.... I haven't played around with painting in a while, maybe I'll get that stuff out after work one day this week. Thanks.
Perhaps you could join a painting, walking or dancing group in your area..

You are making a lot of progress, no denying that, but I haven't seen you mention your drumming friends in a while.

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I think there's a few reasons why he keeps losing jobs:
1. He's working for little companies that need him because they're failing.
2. He doesn't play office politics.
3. He's remote so it's hard to catch a problem in the moment and fix it in the moment.
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5. He's a compulsive liar and exaggerates what he can do or has done.

He is good at what he does which is why he tends to find a job quickly. And he does work very meticulously and fast.

I just wish he could maintain a stable job.


4+5 are the most important. Are you eligible for any benefits whilst he's not working again?

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4+5 are the most important. Are you eligible for any benefits whilst he's not working again?
Technically, yes. I qualify for disability if he has no income or is also on disability. However, the process of getting back on disability is usually long, and he better have a job again within that time frame.

L and I have suggested to him multiple times that we get a divorce so I can bring in some money, too. And EVERYONE has told my dad to claim me a a caretaker so I can get some income that way as well. H is too scared of losing me if we get a divorce, and dad is too proud to admit he needs and has a lot of help. I have even told my dad I'd split the income from being his caretaker.

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I was originally going to make my mom the mandala blanket. L came up with an idea to make another blanket for us. She thinks that we can swap the two blankets with each other to "recharge" them. So I decided to make the mandala blanket for us instead. She suggested that I start working on it now because I'm really struggling with boredom. So I told her I want to make it for us instead of my mom, and she was so excited. Now I have to figure these stitches out! The hard one looks to be DC2TOG. The other 3, I think I can do.

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