[AnaWhitney]

Guys, I had a really strange time at appointment today, I don’t know what to make of it
I don’t know if you remember me posting a while back about messing up psych evaluation by not being brave enough to answer truthfully. Well I got called for a follow up appointment. ( the system is a disaster In my country and there months to several years waiting lists for anything public)
Anyway my T (who I see privately and who wanted me to get evaluated) and I agreed I should give the correct answers this time, write it down and hand it over and we would deal with the outcome / potential diagnosis together afterwards. I could only do all of this because of my T as I am very mistrustful and fearful of being controlled / taken over by others for what I see as showing weakness (or being honest about my symptoms) She acts like it’s no big deal and like nothing bad is going to happen to me and I suppose I trusted her enough to be able to believe it will be fine and go to this appointment.

The problem is the Pdoc. He got mad at me and raised his voice and acted like me seeing my T is the most ridiculous thing he’s ever heard. He said that she has been treating me without a diagnosis so she has no idea what she is treating me for and I’ve just wasted my time and money. I told him but that’s why she’s had me come here? And he was just shouting like he was making some big point ‘ and why are you here!? What is the point in you being here!? ‘ and I said for a diagnosis if there is one? And he was just like ‘exactly!’ Like he was making some big point. I actually thought he was a bit crazy.
Then he started accusing me of already knowing my diagnosis, he was saying that he knows and I know, and that I’ve been reading and googling and I know exactly what my diagnosis is. I said I don’t know what you are talking about (as I’ve never felt anything really fits and had not actually been Googling beforehand) and I said to him to just say it. And he went BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER!! And I said I did not think I had that. And he replied something wishy washy that I can’t remember.
He also started trying to shove some other counselling organisation that is part of the public mental health system down my throat and I said I was happy with my T. I actually stopped being able to listen to him and when I checked out mentally, apparently I was looking at the door too much so he got up and closed the blind on it, and that kind of bothered me as I actually thought he was closing it so he could do something to me, then I started worrying about what else would he would do if I couldn’t pay attention, which did not help me focus.
And then he tried to make me practice answering the phone to him which I thought was crazy. I literally ran when I got out and cried for a good couple of hours.
Are pdocs just terrible with people ? My T is the only T I’ve ever trusted and my only support and ally in all of this. He is trying to make me feel stupid for seeing her. He seems to think I should have seen him first, but that could never have happened as like I’ve said it took me 10 months of work with her just to get me to this point. I started the only way I could start as my ways of thinking / fears really stop me from being able to seek that kind of help and my T has slowly helped with that. So I feel very misunderstood being told that I was wrong and makes me have no faith in his diagnosis (which he gave without testing since he said I had to wait longer for testing)
Thoughts would be very much appreciated! Thank you

[unaluna]

Boy sounds like he needs a vacation or at least a cookie!

Im sorry that happened to you.

[LonesomeTonight]

Ugh, I'm so sorry. Good p-docs do exist--I've had them. He just sounds really weird and like he gets off on having authority over others. I'd consider filing a complaint if that's an option. Is there anyone else you can see instead? Maybe try a female, if at all possible? I seem to prefer male T's and female p-docs (and primary care doctors), for whatever reason.

[Travelinglady]

I'd start over with a different pdoc. In my experience some of them are "off." I'm so sorry you went through that.

[Nammu]

He seems to be irate because he thinks you’re manipulating the system just because you had a T already and took the test once. That’s presumptive of him. Yeah, he needs a cookie or a snickers.

[AnaWhitney]

Una thank you for the laugh, I needed it 😂

LT, I don’t have a choice. The public mental health service is a shambles in this country, and there are no private pdocs. A lot of primary care doctors won’t even give a referral unless the patient is psychotic, I just got one because my T convinced me to let her deal with my doctor to get me the referral. So I don’t really have an option. Although I did prefer the lady pdoc I had last time and was hoping for her again, but got this guy who seemed to be a consultant.
I just think it’s a bit much to be so rude about how I’ve gone about things when we all know the state of the public mental health service. My T did tell me they like to work in a little bubble and would not be open to communicating with her. So I just wanted the diagnosis I guess, and possible medication which I did get but am suspicious about since I don’t trust the pdoc.
He actually kept telling me to trust him which also really bothered me.

[AnaWhitney]

Filled my T in today, I’ve never seen her angry but she was fairly angry 🙈 I feel bad that I feel so much better now because she was mad too 😂 She does not feel the diagnosis fits me either
I think the pdoc just saw SH episodes and relationship problems and jumped to BPD.

[ArtieTheSequal]

That's awful. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

[Therapy reviewed]

A T treats the person not the dx. Sounds, like pdoc has some issues...

[Fuzzybear]