[Kiya]

"Kids are resilient... kids move on. It's adults that get stuck."

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by Kiya

"Kids are resilient... kids move on. It's adults that get stuck."

Kids move on if they are getting help...

[bipolar_bear]

(((((((((((((((((((((((((Kiya and all)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Please give yourselves time to heal and move on. Thinking of you.

BB

[Kiya]

Yeah - kids move on because, really, what choice do they have?? They move on and either get help and recover, or don't get help and find their own (usually poor) coping skills ....and get stuck as adults.

I think that is a bit of a blanket statement. The adult that is "stuck"
was once a kid. So, maybe some kids suppress/repress issues OR exhibit inappropriate behavior which may make them appear not to have issues or to have a behavioral disorder.

I wonder why your T said this to you, Kiya? What did it mean to you?

I hope you are doing okay!

[Kiya]

[quote=Soliaree;809265]

I wonder why your T said this to you, Kiya? What did it mean to you?quote]

not really sure... either telling me i was stuck? or telling me i can get unstuck? maybe simply because that is what was in her mind, since i recall seeing a book with a similar title on her desk....

what did it mean to me.... hmmmmm not much at the time. it was a throw away statement to me - brain looked at her blankly, and chucked it. but it seems to have regurgitated it for some unknown reason. Maybe i'm grasping at straws to figure out why someone turned the snow globe i'm in upside down. or so i can stop being a "victim" like t hinted at. i don't like to think of myself as a victim.... i'd hate to find out i'm actually coming across that way... but if i didn't know, i couldn't change it. i don't feel well, i know that. =(
(((((((((soli)))))))))

[SpottedOwl]

Originally Posted by Kiya

"Kids are resilient... kids move on. It's adults that get stuck."

(((Kiya)))

I think all of us are resilient, but the statement does hold some truth.

As adults, we generally rely more on our intellectual mind. As kids, by necessity, we rely more on our feeling/intuitive mind because we have to.
We don't 'know' (intellectual) how things work, rather we try things out, play, and see what works.

So, as a kid, if something doesn't work we are used to chucking it and trying something else. As adults, our expectations slow us down.

IMHO, we all still have that kid's sense of wonder and curiosity inside of us, which means that all of us can learn to be more resilient.

[Kiya]

Yeah - and it is something i have noticed, too - working with kids. I think as adults we reach a certain point (some of us, certainly not all) and stop - trying to recreate things or patterns that stopped working. I like the quote; "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results" - I think that was Einstein.

Originally Posted by SpottedOwl

(((Kiya)))

I think all of us are resilient, but the statement does hold some truth.

As adults, we generally rely more on our intellectual mind. As kids, by necessity, we rely more on our feeling/intuitive mind because we have to.
We don't 'know' (intellectual) how things work, rather we try things out, play, and see what works.

So, as a kid, if something doesn't work we are used to chucking it and trying something else. As adults, our expectations slow us down.

IMHO, we all still have that kid's sense of wonder and curiosity inside of us, which means that all of us can learn to be more resilient.