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#476
Jul 20, 2024, 08:42 PM
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Same. And Rome will still be there next trip. Ireland, on the other hand...leprechauns and such, they might just get miffed and disappear the whole thing.
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#477
Jul 20, 2024, 08:45 PM
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#478
Jul 21, 2024, 07:47 AM
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A healthy human being should be able to manage more than one social thing in a day, right?
I'm attending a new-to-me online grief group tonight, where I won't know anyone. This morning I went for a walk and then popped into a shop, where we ran into friends and ended up going for coffee. I could feel my social battery depleting by the second. We sat there for an hour before the thought 'I need to get out of here' crossed my mind. Shortly after that, we left. Is this normal, or 'normal for someone who's going through a lot'?
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#479
Jul 21, 2024, 08:18 AM
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I think it's totally normal--definitely for someone who's going through a lot, but also can be normal for an introvert. I can only handle so much social time, and my battery runs out. Like I wouldn't want to do something social on a Friday, Saturday, AND Sunday. Just two is enough, and if one was something like a party or family gathering, it can wipe me out. The holidays can be difficult for me for that reason. I need a lot of alone time in general. So please try to be easy on yourself right now. |
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#480
Jul 21, 2024, 08:19 AM
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I like this cartoon about the introvert social battery.
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| LostOnTheTrail, ScarletPimpernel, unaluna, WarmFuzzySocks
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#481
Jul 21, 2024, 09:25 AM
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I would be grateful if the Irish goodbye was more acceptable.
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'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
| atisketatasket, LonesomeTonight, unaluna, WarmFuzzySocks
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#482
Jul 21, 2024, 09:36 AM
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Seeing my gp every 6 months, rather than every 3 months, geez! On the quarterly schedule, my battery doesnt even have time to recharge before it has to switch to backup. Semiannual is much more my speed.
In summation - twice a year, good. Twice a day, insanity! |
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#483
Jul 21, 2024, 11:02 AM
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My H will do this. Though he's Irish, so I think he can get away with it more! I tend to feel guilty if we do that. And it wouldn't work with my family gatherings. We all need to hug good-bye and stuff. I tend to just sort of wave to his family (well, aside from his one uncle, who's a hugger). |
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#484
Jul 21, 2024, 12:00 PM
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this makes an argument for it- What Is an Irish Exit? Why an Irish Goodbye Is Actually Not That Rude - Thrillist
" "No one cares if you leave."
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
| LonesomeTonight, LostOnTheTrail, unaluna, WarmFuzzySocks
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#485
Jul 21, 2024, 12:46 PM
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Lost, I try to only make one appointment in a day. I've actually learned to like going out and seeing the people I know (even doctors). I'll even try to go with H when he picks up food or something just to get out of the house. But doing two things (anything) in a day is overwhelming for me. And that a normal day when I'm feeling okay. Like today, 2 of my girls have grooming appointments, I have a phone call with L between drop off and pickup, I have to get groceries delivered and I have to do laundry. Today is overwhelming for me. So yes, I think it's normal to only be able to handle one social event a day especially when you're dealing with so much. Like LT's cartoon, it's okay to check out.
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#486
Jul 21, 2024, 02:58 PM
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I do want to move there eventually. A few Game of throne scenes were filmed there. So you could also dress up and take photos too. Game of Thrones Tours - Experience the real film locations Or you could do a mini tour and visit both. There’s 3 hours flight time between the two. Look at Ryanair for cheap tickets.
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#487
Jul 21, 2024, 03:13 PM
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 .We can only observe a universe where we are possible. Given that we are here, specific conditions must have been met, making our existence a reality within the broader context of the universe.
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#488
Jul 21, 2024, 03:17 PM
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Yeah i never knew knew that leaving without saying goodbye was a bad thing. But i think it was because people were always waiting for me to leave. Like my brother, or the adults, or the boy cousins, or the small cousins. I didnt have a great social life. So people at my first job had to educate me. Like to call it pasta, not macaroni.
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#489
Jul 21, 2024, 03:22 PM
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"You had to live—did live, from habit that became instinct—in the assumption that every sound you made was overheard, and, except in darkness, every movement scrutinized.” Do not google the company Palantir and their government contracts. Or their involvement with the NHS .
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#490
Jul 21, 2024, 03:26 PM
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Tonight's 'grief group' session turned into a one-to-one.
The facilitator was very supportive and even commented on one of my distress tells. 'You're shaking your head - what's happening there?' Maybe it's because I'm feeling the distance from R already, but I have already booked a session for next Sunday. LT - the flameless candle idea was such a success. I bought one that is very similar to what I already use with R...and it came in handy when the facilitator offered the space to light a candle tonight.
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'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#491
Jul 21, 2024, 03:33 PM
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#492
Jul 21, 2024, 04:20 PM
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"A few Game of throne scenes were filmed there. So you could also dress up and take photos too."
Good lord -do people actually do this? I never watched Game of Thrones my person did for one or two shows. But why on earth would someone want to dress up and take photos if they were over the age of 10? Oh well to each their own as the old lady said wish she kissed the cow.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#493
Jul 21, 2024, 04:28 PM
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Thanks Cake,
I've never thought about looking at grief through the HSP lens...makes so much sense now.
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'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#494
Jul 21, 2024, 04:33 PM
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I was once passing through a Brony convention in Baltimore. It was a bit of a shock. Adult men stressed up as My Pretty Ponies. |
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#495
Jul 21, 2024, 05:24 PM
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Glad the candle was helpful! And that you'll be able to have a session with the facilitator Sunday. |
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#496
Jul 21, 2024, 07:12 PM
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Last edited by stopdog; Jul 21, 2024 at 08:10 PM. |
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#498
Jul 21, 2024, 08:57 PM
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for me it's just I don't like violent dystopian TV shows. I honestly don't watch any shows with violence or even most dramas. Actually I don't watch a lot of stuff in general because reading is faster to get to the point. it makes me crazy actually when my colleagues make a video for students to watch because students like to watch videos. They're going to be in a reading profession so they need to read and write. I watched all of Bridgerton through YouTube clips- that way I can just watch the important parts and get rid of all the chaff. and by important parts I mean only the scenes with Simone Ashley in them.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#499
Jul 21, 2024, 09:20 PM
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I was gonna ask if she was the chubby chick, but i just googled her instead. Yowza!
 ETA - So i had a day today. New rule - i have to make a VISIBLE change in the orderliness of my home, every day. Today i took down recycles, got groceries, and peed. |
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#500
Jul 21, 2024, 09:29 PM
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I think you mean Nicola Coughlan -she is very good and can be very funny. She was also in the Derry Girls. she was the wee lesbian
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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