Couch 249: The Self Care Couch

LonesomeTonight · Yesterday at 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Carey water or buy it even if it’s overpriced. Try to find shade and find some where to sit if you can if you need to.

I always have a traditional sun hat too.

You can buy mini sun blocking umbrellas for personal shade. I was looking at a 2 in 1 sun and rain umbrella yesterday for my sister.

Even with the buy your own drinks venues that I’ve been to they have always handed out free water too.

I will only be going back to London after more than 1.8 years of not visiting only to go to a concert with my brother in September

Thanks, Lemon, I managed! No free water here at venues, unless it's from a water fountain. They charge $6 or more for a bottle of water. Seems like it's just setting people up for heat issues in the summer. Actually, this one indoor place I used to go to more regularly used to have pitchers of water and cups available, though I think they stopped that after the pandemic.

I hope you enjoy your September concert!

ScarletPimpernel · Yesterday at 10:35 PM

I'm a cuddler, but not when I sleep. We have a split king and stay on our sides of the bed. We don't even share blankets. My main problem at night is not H. He comes to bed after I'm asleep and my Seroquel knocks me out. My problem is my dogs. All 4 sleep in bed with us and for some reason 3/4 are almost always on me (one on my head, one at my knees, and one at my feet). The youngest won't even get up if I need to move.

atisketatasket · Yesterday at 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

As a laaaady, i only glow.

Like a firefly!

Sweetie, that’s the gas.

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 09:00 AM

last night I dreamed that h and I had hundreds of boxes of new shoes in our basement (we don't have a basement in rl) in our sizes, and all the sizes our son ever wore. there were neighborhood kids there and we told each of them to pick out several pairs each. I found some really cute sandals for myself. and a pair that would fit my sister.

dreams are weird.

LostOnTheTrail · Today at 09:01 AM

That sounds bizarre, but fun on the dream scale of things.

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 09:12 AM

i could have opened a dream shoe store hahaha!

LonesomeTonight · Today at 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

last night I dreamed that h and I had hundreds of boxes of new shoes in our basement (we don't have a basement in rl) in our sizes, and all the sizes our son ever wore. there were neighborhood kids there and we told each of them to pick out several pairs each. I found some really cute sandals for myself. and a pair that would fit my sister.

dreams are weird.

That is really interesting! Maybe a sign you should go shoe shopping?

I had a really weird one last night that I'm sure Una would have a field day with, but not sure about sharing it...

unaluna · Today at 11:51 AM

Im still formulating freudian hypotheses about all those shoes! But i can multi-task!

Lemoncake · Today at 12:45 PM

My interpretation of the dream is that it’s about having choices and direction.

From oh the places you will go:

“You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose."

The hundreds of boxes of new shoes in your dream could symbolize the choices available to you. The shoes fit = indicate that these opportunities are well-suited to you and those close to you.

Giving shoes to the kids was about a desire to share your good fortune or to help others find their path.

A pair for your sister suggests a concern for her well-being or a desire to support her in her journey as well.

Maybe I should be a T?

#Hit the $150 dollars

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Im still formulating freudian hypotheses about all those shoes! But i can multi-task!

I am all atwitter waiting for said hypotheses!

LostOnTheTrail · Today at 04:38 PM

Feeling raw is a full time job.

LadyShadow · Today at 04:48 PM

(((Hugs))) @LostOnTheTrail - I know the feeling all too well. I hope things improve throughout the course of the day. Thanks for all the advice @Lemoncake - I will look into more support, this bully in me does a fair of beating every day. I really appreciate what you had to say, it really helped me think about things. Radical acceptance is key, and I think giving my bully a name and a persona has helped pull her out of me and address what she does to me.

I think this whole shoes thing is so great @unaluna awaiting the interesting hypothesis too!! @ArtieTheSequal - being from NYC shoes was such a big part of my life! I used to have so many, some I never even wore. I miss heels though I have to say, I used to enjoy wearing them. Being a bigger girl now, even cute wedges for the summer are a challenge, but I am hoping by this time next year, I would have made a dent in this whole weight issue.

On the therapy front, I totally overslept and missed my appointment this morning, which resulted in an onslaught of shame and self-hate. I have come to the realization that no one in my entire life has hurt me as much as I have hurt myself over the years.

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 05:03 PM

"no one in my entire life has hurt me as much as I have hurt myself over the years."

Boy howdy do I relate to that, LadyShadow. Hugs if wanted.

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 05:06 PM

I told L one time that I had come to the realization that I was the author of so much of my own misery. She was like "huh?"

Did she even know me at all?

LadyShadow · Today at 05:13 PM

Thanks so much @ArtieTheSequal - I'll take all the hugs right now! It's amazing, isn't it? "Author of my own misery" - as a writer, I feel that so much. I never considered myself a masochist, but I am really rethinking it, as much as I whip myself especially when I'm down. It's so funny because I never did that growing up - I was such a happy kid with so much imagination - what the heck happened? Like where did this behavior come from?

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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,428 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,876 hugs given	Today at 09:00 AM #184 last night I dreamed that h and I had hundreds of boxes of new shoes in our basement (we don't have a basement in rl) in our sizes, and all the sizes our son ever wore. there were neighborhood kids there and we told each of them to pick out several pairs each. I found some really cute sandals for myself. and a pair that would fit my sister. dreams are weird.
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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,428 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,876 hugs given	Today at 09:12 AM #186 i could have opened a dream shoe store hahaha!
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,212 (SuperPoster!) 13 67.2k hugs given	Today at 11:51 AM #188 Im still formulating freudian hypotheses about all those shoes! But i can multi-task!
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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,428 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,876 hugs given	Today at 05:03 PM #193 "no one in my entire life has hurt me as much as I have hurt myself over the years." Boy howdy do I relate to that, LadyShadow. Hugs if wanted.
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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,428 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,876 hugs given	Today at 05:06 PM #194 I told L one time that I had come to the realization that I was the author of so much of my own misery. She was like "huh?" Did she even know me at all?
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