Couch 251: The Matrix Recovered

LonesomeTonight · Today at 06:31 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

H is losing his job. If he doesn't agree to be a contractor, they're firing him on Friday...

I'm really sorry, Scarlet. Would he still get any benefits if he became a contractor? And I assume his pay would change, too. Could it be worth becoming a contractor for now while he looks for a new job?

ChickenNoodleSoup · Today at 11:01 AM

Scarlet, hugs... that sucks. Though some income sounds better than none for the moment? Hard to say from here of course...

LT, I'll just throw something out that my (hopefully soon ex-partner) says all the time and I still struggle with (he has Asperger's and from my impression it's pretty severe): if he'd say "why are you here" when I am in a room, he'd probably want to me to take it literally. I.e. why am I currently here, is there something that needs to be done? Not in a mean way at all, just what's going on kind of. Your D might also perceive some part of the house as "her hangout room" and then when you are there and there is no reason, maybe she wonders? I really, really struggle with just taking things literally when he says them, but most often, whatever he says is translated very literally to the situation and does not have any ill-intend at all. Of course I don't know whether it's the same for her.

ChickenNoodleSoup · Today at 11:02 AM

As for myself right now, I continue to enjoy working with teenagers so much, especially teaching physics. They come up and ask things related to such fundamental aspects of how our world works and are surprised by the smallest things. It's so refreshing. The job has really lifted my experience of life. I enjoy telling people about random stuff in physics, and most often, people like hearing about it.

Lemoncake · Today at 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

An unusual indicator of struggle, perhaps...

I just wrote a haiku, then counted the syllables.

One too many.

I'm losing my touch.

Even if the syllable count slipped this time, your poetic touch is still very much there. It's a gentle reminder that even the best can misstep. Keep writing; the words will find their way.

Lemoncake · Today at 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Doing OK, thanks for asking! I think I've adapted to Dr. T's new location. It came up today, and he said, "You haven't talked about it much lately. How does it feel meeting here?" I said I guessed I'd come to accept it as his office, that I didn't really think about it much anymore--I'm used to it now. How I think I needed to feel he was still the same person in it and that it felt safe. (We did process some stuff with the move a couple months ago.)

In other news, H and I just started seeing a T (female and virtual) to help with parenting stuff regarding D. I'll call her K. The 90-minute intake session went pretty well (H afterward: "I like her, I think"). She has experience with autism. Hoping we can see her for a handful of sessions to get some ideas, then maybe just meet with her periodically for support as needed.

Because D often does not even want to speak to me or accept my presence (like going "No!" or "Why are you here?" if I'm in a common space in the house), K offered to see me for an individual session to discuss that. So I'm doing that (also virtually) Thursday. H is OK with it (and I said he could meet with her individually, too, if he wants). Then, H and I meet with her again in early December (next week is a big holiday week in the US--Thanksgiving--so she's off then).

So, we'll see how that all goes.

How are you doing, Comrade?

It’s significant that Dr. T’s new office now feels familiar and safe to you. That speaks to your adaptability and the strength of the therapeutic relationship you’ve built with him, even through change. Feeling secure in that space means you've allowed yourself to find grounding despite all the disruption, which is a powerful step.

Starting sessions with K sounds like a hopeful new chapter. You’re doing hard and meaningful work by acknowledging and addressing the challenges with D. It’s courageous to open up and seek support. K’s offer to work with you individually shows care for the nuances of your family’s situation, and it’s good that H is also engaged in this process, too.

I hope that these sessions bring a sense of understanding and direction. Remember to be gentle with yourself. You’re taking proactive steps, and that alone is a sign of deep commitment to the well-being of your family.

Take things one step at a time.

Lemoncake · 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by ChickenNoodleSoup

As for myself right now, I continue to enjoy working with teenagers so much, especially teaching physics. They come up and ask things related to such fundamental aspects of how our world works and are surprised by the smallest things. It's so refreshing. The job has really lifted my experience of life. I enjoy telling people about random stuff in physics, and most often, people like hearing about it.

That sounds so fulfilling! It must be incredible to witness those moments of surprise and discovery firsthand. Sharing your passion for physics in ways that others find engaging is a gift, and it’s clear that your work brings light into your life and likely into the lives of those around you, too.

Over the past few days I've been looking at Physics A-level exam question papers. I always liked Physics as a teenager, but didn't take it higher.

Instead of more therapy I want to start learning maths again and I've signed up for 1:1 acting classes with someone whose been in a Netflix show and a few Russian plays. Just looking for a hand hold and a maths tutor to go through it with me again right from the start. The goal even if it takes a few years would be to take the maths A-level exam even though I don't technically need to.

Edit: I just booked a lesson with a PhD student who had a nice intro video . "I'm an aspiring physicist with a background in engineering (BSc and MSc, plus completed PhD coursework and was on the PhD Thesis stage, all in the field of engineering".

LostOnTheTrail · Today at 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Even if the syllable count slipped this time, your poetic touch is still very much there. It's a gentle reminder that even the best can misstep. Keep writing; the words will find their way.

Thanks, Cake.

Needed that.
Work felt strange today in light of everything that's been happening.

Lemoncake · Today at 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Your funny. Even my private dr sends me to the mass jab lab. I chose the pharmacy to do it because they were giving my brand on the day i was going to pick up my insulin anyway.

I live in a university town where there are a LOT of retired drs professors etc. I am pretty poor, so no i do not have a boutique dr as im sure many of them do. I have become like my dad, in that i avoid the dr as much as possible. Less chance for them to mess something up. My last mammogram made me bleed. Of course, if YOU were my dr, that would change!

It will be a date!

I also avoid doctors as much as possible for myself

. I haven't been to my NHS GP in around 8 years. My brother is also a doctor working in oncology at the moment, but I don't obviously avoid him..

Lemoncake · Today at 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Thanks, Cake.

Needed that.
Work felt strange today in light of everything that's been happening.

Do you have a date to see R next?

LostOnTheTrail · Today at 12:34 PM

Thanks Cake,

We have a session on Thursday, and plenty to talk about.
The work stuff is the least of it, which is why I've put it in an email.

I feel like I'd be better off if I could figure out how to express anger in the right direction, safely...

There are layers of anger, though.

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 01:23 PM

ugh ugh ugh. I need to vent. just got out of a team meeting (on lunch now) where we were advised that our email team is for sure being dissolved next month and we're all being forced into live chat. They had said that before and then changed it. But now they are back to saying basically "it's going to happen get over it". That means new shift bid, so we'll be getting the crappy schedules, and we'll be highly monitored and controlled by workforce as far as breaks and lunches and no flexibility as far as breaks, lunch, or hours. If you have a dr appt, tough **** if there's no vacation available. This sucks. I'm too old and too close to retiring (2.5 years) to try to find a new job and start over someplace else. I don't know what to do. If I start trying to find another job now, or just wait and see how it goes, I am not a happy camper today. When I had to do chat in the past I was not good at it, it stressed me out no end, my shoulders would be up around my ears by the end of the day dealing with pissed off people and having to do 2 chats at once and having to adhere to response times, etc. I don't want to do this. Agh.

vent/rant over.

LostOnTheTrail · Today at 01:42 PM

Yuck...

I'm so sorry, Artie.

Lemoncake · Today at 01:53 PM

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this—it sounds incredibly frustrating and stressful. The sudden shift to live chat, especially when you’ve had tough experiences with it in the past, is understandably overwhelming. The lack of flexibility and increased monitoring add to the sense of being trapped in a job environment that feels far from ideal, especially with retirement in sight.

It’s perfectly valid to feel upset about the loss of control and the added stress this change is likely to bring. Navigating such uncertainty so close to the finish line of your career can feel unfair. Taking some time to breathe and consider your options, whether that’s waiting to see how things go or exploring alternatives if you feel it’s worth it, might help. For now, venting is a completely normal and necessary response—this is a big and unsettling change. You deserve space to process it.

Would you be eligible for government benefits, if you were not working to bridge the gap until you did retire officially?

Lemoncake · Today at 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Thanks Cake,

We have a session on Thursday, and plenty to talk about.
The work stuff is the least of it, which is why I've put it in an email.

I feel like I'd be better off if I could figure out how to express anger in the right direction, safely...

There are layers of anger, though.

In your session, it might help to talk through those layers and explore where your anger is truly rooted. You’re already showing self-awareness by recognizing the need to process this constructively. It’s perfectly okay to take it slow.

ArtieTheSequal · Today at 02:00 PM

hugs to all who need/want. i'm too agitated to sit still right now and read. going for a walk.

NP_Complete · Today at 02:46 PM

I'm feeling really triggered after today's session with my prescriber. I really want to talk to P right now. I'm feeling upset because he's been the person who helps me hold my trauma, if that makes sense, and I'm about to lose that. I don't want to feel adrift when he's gone.

LostOnTheTrail · Today at 04:20 PM

So sorry, NP.

Once you've had a relationship like that and it's threatened or you know it's gong to end...that's a really hard place to be.

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LostOnTheTrail Human Feeling Member Since Aug 2011 Location: England Posts: 5,463 13 3,545 hugs given	Today at 01:42 PM #72 Yuck... I'm so sorry, Artie. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light Just hold on tight, that's all you gotta do...' Steve Earle - Fort Worth Blues 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin
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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,607 (SuperPoster!) 4 6,022 hugs given	Today at 02:00 PM #75 hugs to all who need/want. i'm too agitated to sit still right now and read. going for a walk.
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NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,876 7 6,415 hugs given	Today at 02:46 PM #76 I'm feeling really triggered after today's session with my prescriber. I really want to talk to P right now. I'm feeling upset because he's been the person who helps me hold my trauma, if that makes sense, and I'm about to lose that. I don't want to feel adrift when he's gone.
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