does your T call to check up on you

I was just wondering how many of your therapists call you just to check up and see how things are going?......I know some of you use e-mail, but do they ever call

never

My T does not call to check up out of the blue.

I see him twice a week so it wouldn't seem to make sense for him to call me if I didn't ask him to. Once he called, but that was after a big rupture.

Peace

No. I see him once a week.

my T doesnt call either..... im lucky to see her every other week....I think im suffering therpay withdrawal

hmmmmm one old t did call out of the blue sometimes - she was fairly intuitive and would just "know" something was up.

last t - never.

current t has called when concerned over an email - but it usually makes me worse when she does call (to be cared for)... so she hasn't sense.... which is a bummer, because i really wish she would today

Not unless I leave a message asking for a call back.
I think she's called once after a session out of concern but it's not typical. She's too busy!

Yes, occasionally-- he has called out of the blue to see how I'm doing when he knows I'm going through a particularly difficult time. I already knew that he cared, but these times really confirmed that for me. He called this week after I left a msg. in which I said, "You don't have to call back."-- he said that he could tell how much I was hurting and wanted to check in. Last week he even called after the session to see if I got home okay because there was a snowstorm. I love my T. I really do.

My t. has called me a couple of times. The 1st was from his car on the way home. He said he was thinking about me & concerned about something I had said. The 2nd was after I sent him a brief e-mail and he was just wondering how I was doing.

The most meaningful thing he has done was about 3 months ago. We were talking about how hard it has been for me to trust a new t. after being badly betrayed by my previous t. While he was telling me how much my growing trust meant to him, he welled up in tears and had to put his head down for a minute before he could go on

I was so shocked and overwhelmed that I just sat and stared at him.


tulips

Our arrangement is that I need to ask for her to call back and she will. But once she called when I didn't ask for her to and it came at such a good time. In fact I was washing dishes in tears and when the phone rang I thought "Oh I wish it could be T but I didn't ask for a call back." and then there she was

My T called back in the beginning of therapy but doesn't anymore.

And no matter how many times I wish he would never calls me out of the blue to check on me.

But he has shown me in other ways that he cares. I just need to recall those times.

My therapist will only call me if I specifically ask him to. Even if I hint strongly that I need a call, he generally won't.

I think there may have been one exception, and I can't recall the circumstances surrounding it.

If I call her machine and cancel my appointment she will call me to see how I am. and she has called my husband at work to see how he thinks I am.

hmmmm.... lindee, wouldn't calling your husband be a breach of contract???

typically, no. not out of the blue anyway. i called her last night at 1am and left her a message crying but i didn't ask for a call back, she called the next day to see how i was and i'm happy with that.

Yes! I know that freaks some people out but he's always done this - not too often but usually at just the right times. He did explain that he would prefer that I call and ask for him to call back because then he knows he won't make things worse for me by checking in. He worried that I'd get myself together and then he'd undo that by calling. But he knows that sometimes I just can't make myself reach out and bother him.

I also had to reassure him that I wouldn't infer that he thought I was weak or helpless without him if he did check in. I take it totally as a sign of caring and understanding. I'll echo Pink - I love my T too!

No T wouldn't just call me to check on me. That would breed a feeling of inablity to find what it is I need to do for myself in any given moment. IT would play into my old tape of powerlessness. T has said that I can call her.

My T has never called out of the blue, but he has always called me back when I've left a message. Even when I've left a message on Friday night, he's called on Saturday or Sunday. Sometimes I leave him messages that I don't ask him to return though. I just say I want to leave a message. I wonder if that's weird.

Sidony

I've been seeing my T for over a year and she's never called but I see her at least once a week so it's fine that she don't call.

It doesn't seem weird to me.

But then I've called my therapist to leave a message, and asked him to hang up when he answered the phone himself because I just wanted to leave a message.

So maybe I'm not a good judge.

My T has called me I think once and that was because he knew that I was in a bad state.

I see him once a week so it isn't necessary for him to call as I also email with him many times a week.

my t does... sometimes he just calls to say hi...other times to remind me to be kind to myself...lyn

Dinah - lol, i've done that!! And sometimes that t would say to me "Well, you've me! So what is happening?!" and i'd have to talk to her.
i wished i could have called t tonight - tonight was a bad night. i can't call now because she may answer it thinking it's an emergency. Well, i guess i could call the work phone, but there's no point on the weekend. besides, i see her monday.

lol. Mine says that too sometimes, and some of the time I insist. I think he is sometimes nonplussed by me.

I know what you mean about weekends. I had this huge epiphany yesterday and wanted to call him. But I didn't know when I could be sure not to get him. Now it's too late, and the immediacy is gone and I'll never be able to explain it as well. At least I wrote it down.

My therapist did call me once when my phone malfunctioned and called him at midnight when I was sound asleep. He got worried to see my number but have no one respond. So I know he really wouldn't mind. But still.

(I'm having trouble figuring out how to insert a part of the previous post, so I hope my replies aren't too confusing.)

I had a T once that would call the next day following a bad session, particularly if I left or was really dissociated. But in general, they have never picked up the phone and said "Hey Rip, how's it going?"

I think I would fall on the floor if that happened. Although I secretly probably wish it...