I just start with a new T about a month ago and I really feel like T does not like me. Anyone go through this?

My first T I never doubted that she liked me. This one I don't know.

[Brian37]

a lot depends on how many clients your T sees everyday....my T only works 3 days a week a and sees a limited number of people so she is very close to all of her clients.....my old T worked in a large clinic and saw 5-7 people a day....so we never got close......he always had to look at his notes to remember stuff about me.....give it some time
.........my first few sessions I felt the same way

Oh, my, YES. I struggled with this SO MUCH at the beginning of therapy. I tend to worry that people won't like me if they know the "real" me, so I totally felt like I was setting myself up to not be liked just by GOING to therapy.

This was really THE huge issue for me for a few months at the beginning of therapy (and that fed in to my abandonment issues quite nicely!). I ended up telling him over and over again how much I needed reassurance, but he wasn't very forthcoming with it - not verbally, anyhow. He did other reassuring things, but I just couldn't let the fear go.

I finally said to him, "couldn't you tell me you like me just a little tiny bit??" and he answered "I DO like you!". And he does, I think. Today, he spontaneously told me "I like working with you". I still worry, but not as much as I used to.

Is your T doing/saying anything to make you think she/he doesn't like you? Could you tell him/her how you are feeling about this?

I know how bad it feels to have this fear, and I'm sending you many warm wishes!

[ECHOES]

Yes but it was really my fears at work.

It took me months and months to feel comfortable with this T and she's great. I just had to keep showing up, wanting it to happen, talking about it not happening. In the process, it happened.

Hang in there!

My T despises me right now.