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Old Mar 20, 2008, 03:22 PM
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I'm relatively new to therapy - have been seeing my T since mid-November (so, a little over 4 months). I've been going twice a week, although I went three times for a couple of weeks recently during a rough patch.

It's been a long process of building trust - believing that he'll really be there for me, that he really does like me, that he's not going to refer me, that no matter what I tell him, it will be okay. He uses a humanistic/psychodynamic approach, and I like him a lot (and I get angry at him a lot too, but I know that's okay, and we always work through it).

Lately, I've been missing him a LOT between appointments. He gave me a little marble from his office to keep with me to remind me that our connection is "real", even when I'm not there. That helps, but I miss the contact. Although I've been married for 15 years and have good friends around me, I feel attached to T in an entirely different way. Maybe because he's the first person who has helped me start to deal with my past trauma -- things I've never really been able to talk to anyone about.

Or maybe it's the fact that he's giving me something I didn't get as a child - unconditional acceptance. I always feel like he's on my side, and like not only does he thinks it's okay if I have needs (this is WAY new for me), but he thinks I deserve to have those needs met. I guess this is stuff you're supposed to get from your parents, maybe? And when I see him, I feel like I've been in the desert for years, and someone is finally offering me a drink of water.

Do you miss your T's between sessions? Is it because our connection and these feelings are so new that I feel this way? I just really miss him right now Missing T between appointments

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Old Mar 20, 2008, 03:25 PM
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yup...the number 1 thing on this board is "missing our T's"

just scroll back thru the pages and you'll find a ton of posts about your same feelings....its normal and part of the therapy process
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Old Mar 20, 2008, 03:29 PM
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LOL - I guess you can tell I'm new to the boards Missing T between appointments

Off to read the old posts.

I just feel such an ACHE right now. It actually physically hurts. And I'm so bad at identifying my feelings. Is it sadness? Longing?

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Old Mar 20, 2008, 04:41 PM
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are you allowed to call your T?....I eventually had too because the "feeling" became overwhelming...........talking thru these feelings is part of the process....I know it was hard for me and still is
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Old Mar 20, 2008, 05:00 PM
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Yes, I can relate. I'm so happy your T gave you a marble.
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Old Mar 20, 2008, 05:50 PM
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this whole forum should be called "i miss my T." i'm so glad im not alone in this.
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Old Mar 20, 2008, 06:50 PM
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I have been in therapy for a year and a half. I saw T 6 hours ago and I miss him already! It's very hard. Some things that help me in between sessions are to write in my journal; (I do this more and more and more often.) I often write in letter form to T and once in a while I send the letters to him.

I also leave him messages on the phone and know he hears them.

Sometimes I ask for messages back, when I feel really far away from him. And, if I'm in a panic, I ask for a return call--if I really can't manage I schedule a phone appointment.

So, there are some ideas.

The yearning to be with someone who really listens only to you and really cares, is amazing, isn't it?

Oh, yeah, I can google him and look at his picture. Missing T between appointments

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Old Mar 20, 2008, 10:05 PM
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Hey, I am new to this T and I never miss her. I think she is cold and could care less....but I have only seen her 9 times. Missing T between appointments

My old T, the minute I left, I would go to the phone and call. It killed me. I tried to handcuff myself to her chair so I never had to leave (I don't recommend that! LOL!)

But if you are feeling good with your T, it is a good sign that you are missing him.....
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