[MissCharlotte]

This week as T and I (once again) talked through our differences he said to me: "You know, Miss, sometimes I think you forget that you are not the only one in this relationship with an emotional attachment." (SIGH)

As I thought about what he said I realized he was right. I think of myself -- and of course rightfully so because it is my therapy -- and my needs and my hurt and my pain. But there are two of us in the room each week. And, although he's my T, he is a person. And as such he has feelings.

As I move in and out of child state and the present, I have to remind myself of the complexities of the therapeutic relationship. After all, the relationship IS the work of therapy. And while we work through the excruciating pain of a lost childhood, we are also working through and towards wholeness in the now.

It's so complicated, and sometimes I have to let those complexities sit but I'm soothed by his willingness to state his emotional attachment.

[Kiya]

***silently pondering your post and its depth***

[skeksi]

That's lovely.

What a great thought, Miss C.

I have a hard time believing T when he says that the attachment goes both ways...but I hope as I mature in therapy, I'll be able to reach the place of peaceful understanding that you seem to have found. What a wonderful and thought-provoking post.