The Grinch Who Stole Christmas?

As T and I continue to discuss the (most recent) rupture, I am taking greater and greater risks in the relationship--revealing to T thoughts I would have hidden only a few months ago, because they feel embarrassing or shameful.

The other day I told him that after the session when I cried so hard, I just "got rid of him." What I did was I imagined stuffing him into that great big toy bag the Grinch had when he stole Christmas from all the "Who's down in Whoville" He laughed. I also told him that I hated that he had the power to hurt me. He winced. He is emotionally with me on this I know but I think he is too quick to want to push past it because he feels a tad guilty about the rupture. In this I see his humanity, his personhood.

I called the evening after the session and we spoke briefly when he called back. I told him I wanted to take him out of the bag. He said "consider me out."

He also said that if I take him out of the bag I'm taking myself out of the bag. Funny, but I was able to understand this statement this morning but now I am confused about it once again.

Working through the pain of a most difficult relationship with my father.....

I think he is an awesome T. He's ethical, honest, and lets me see his "warts." Yeah, he's a keeper!

Way to go! The therapeutic process...works !

Out of the bag! Yay!

Hugs to you ((((((((((( MissCharlotte ))))))))))))

Sounds wonderful! You've inspired me to make a new, separate post myself.

(((Miss)))
I'm glad things are going so well! Did you imagine him in the bag that went over the hill with the dog, LOL? It sounds like another heart has grown bigger in Whoville

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You got it Sol!!! I put him right in that bag and pushed the whole thing over the mountain...........that'll teach him.