Argument with T

I don't post much but I read alot and your posts are such an inspiration to me.

I have been in therapy for years. My T has been wonderful. However, I stopped seeing him for a few months because of something stupid that he said which was very hurtful to me.

He sent me a letter saying that I misunderstood. What he said was very clear and I think that I understood exactly what he said. He is blaming the problem on me and I am angry about it. Sometimes, I think it is best that I best move on if he cannot understand my point of view and take some ownership in the problem. Other times, I think that I need to see him for a few more sessions to see if we can get on the same page.

I just hate it when problems come up in therapy and the T implies that it is solely our problem because we are in treatment. I just feel like screaming that it is not my problem, but his. Ugh!

((((((((((((( Lily ))))))))))))))))))
It sounds like a very difficult decision and I don't know what I would do.

I understand Lily. Some T's are very good at acknowledging that they do in fact contribute to the 'process' and some can be shall we say too narcissistic to do so?

I'm injecting some of my baggage here but the point is if you know you are right and it feels right then stick with it.

They should be teaching us to believe in our thoughts, build trust, gain confidence but sadly often times what happens is the opposite.