[LAS112]

So I'm scheduled to see a new T on Tuesday. I'm getting nervous and trying to not cancel the appointment. I went to a T for almost two years, then had to stop abruptly because my fiance and I moved out of state. I was seeing the T before I met my fiance and I didn't really tell him much about the sessions. I haven't been to a T in four months. My fiance knows I'm going to see a T again, but I don't talk in detail with my fiance about what's going on. So, how much of therapy sessions do you talk with your significant other about? Does he/she ask a lot about what you talked about or do you openly talk to him/her about it? Is there an assumption that you'll tell them whatever you want? Any suggestions on what/how much to tell my fiance?

[sunrise]

I really don't tell anyone anything about my therapy. It's private. You should only share as much as you are comfortable with, and don't be afraid to tell nosy people that "it's private," or "that's confidential," or something generic, like, "I think therapy is helpful to me." For dealing with your fiance, you could not mention your T visit and maybe he won't either--he'll respect your privacy. If he does ask you something, like "how did T go?" you could just say "fine," and leave it at that. When you don't elaborate, hopefully he will get the message and you can move on to other topics of conversation. If he pries, use the "it's private," response.

Good luck!

Well, we all pretty much blab on here about our sessions (I know I do!) so I'm not going to say I don't tell anybody. I have been seeing my T for three years... I have barely told my husband anything about what goes on in session. He respects the concept that therapy is a very private and unique relationship. I might tell him something funny that happened, or a really good insight... but other than that, I keep quiet.

[sunrise]

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pinksoil said:
Well, we all pretty much blab on here about our sessions (I know I do!) so I'm not going to say I don't tell anybody.</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Ha, you are so right! I am a total blabbermouth here about my therapy. But that's different, right?

[ECHOES]

When my son was young and still at home and was seeing a therapist, we agreed that I could ask how it went and he was free to say anything or nothing.

Therapy is so personal and private. Even those closest to us are not priviledged to any of the details. Those people can support us in our therapy without knowing any of the details of what is talked about in therapy.

I talk to people online about some of my therapy, but most of it I keep between me and my therapist.