I'm meeting with the (female) marriage T tomorrow... without husband, of course. She seems nice; I spoke with her twice on the phone. She laughed, which was good. I cannot have a T who doesn't laugh.

I spoke with (individual) T today over the phone-- we talked about some of the things I might want to tell her tomorrow-- outlining some of the things that I want to get out of marriage therapy.

I'm looking forward to this new phase of treatment. I'm half excited, and half depressed as hell because this is the real acceptance that H is not coming with me.... and when I told him I was going tomorrow he was just like, "Oh.. ok." %#@&#!

[emilyjeanne]

I just want you to know that you are doing a great thing. It also takes alot of courage. Good luck.

[missboots]

I never knew one can go to marriage Therapy without hubby! I thought it was for you and hubby to talk out your problems with a T to be sorta like a referee. Then you and hubby can go home and make up.

[sunrise]

I think it is great you are going to marriage counseling, pink. I wish I had done that many years ago on my own (because my husband refused to go with me when I suggested it so I just dropped the idea). I think many people don't know you can go to marriage counseling on your own. When I later did it, it was so helpful to me! After a number of months of this, I was able to get my H to go to sessions with me. The response of your H, "Oh, OK," is not bad. He is not telling you not to go and doesn't sound hostile. He might be open to going at a later date. Just give him some space on this, go by yourself, and keep the avenues of communication open with him. You are very brave. Good luck!

[sunrise]

Hope things went well, pinksoil. How did you like the T?

[Lemon]

How did it go with the marriage T? I think its great that you're going even if your H won't go with you right now. My H was actually more willing to go at first than I was. I was just scared because I'm an extreme introvert and had never been in therapy before. Maybe your H just needs time and it might help him see that you really want to improve your marriage even if he isn't ready to go to T yet.