Being supportive

I am struck with how supportive people can be to others even when they cannot be so with themselves. I suppose it is not surprising. I find it quite impressive.

Yes - I find it so much easier to care for others than myself. And see for them what I cannot see for myself. Odd.

I agree!

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Kiya said:
Yes - I find it so much easier to care for others than myself. And see for them what I cannot see for myself. Odd.

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This is so true. T gave me an assignment for the weekend - to think about the concept of "grace". He said I am very good at giving grace to other people , but I won't give it to myself. I am thinking of it as loving-kindness, as it is a buddhist concept and therefore makes more sense to me. It's very hard to think about applying it to myself.

We are all lucky we have each other right now while we're still learning. I'll give you grace, you give me grace, and someday when we grow and learn more, maybe we can give it to ourselves.

I also find this interesting. I find myself parroting what my therapists have said to me in therapy to people here. When they tell me this stuff I dont really think about it, most of the time I just brush it aside and keep with my own coping skills which are great but when I am helping someone here and I repeat what they tell me it brings it to a whole new light. I then actually try and use it because it makes sense. I suprise myself at the depth of my knowledge lol. I have been in real therapy for about 6 months or so and wow they sure do cram your head full of stuff with out even breaking a sweat. Of course admitting this type of stuff to my therapists would be to much positve reinforcement and they may not handle that well. so I will just kick it under this table

Wow! Pachyderm. You kinda hit a spot.
My T once said that I'm very hard on myself. She is right and I understand, if not know, that.
I continue to learn more things about myself and how to be supportive of others, (for the most part, I am supportive of others) including myself.
Thanks.

I think it's a giving thing. It feels good to give to others.

We are gentler and more forgiving of others, that's true. And a good thing to see because awareness preceeds change and we'll feel so much better when we can start sending that caring right to ourselves too.