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Aug 05, 2008, 11:27 AM
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I think I wrote the other week about how T said she was sitting with me in the silence and I just nodded NO! and continue to nod for quite a while. Well yesterday as its the last but one session before the summer break, I asked her what the point in coming was, just to sit in silence and T said, well that fact we're both here together. I felt the discomfort inside raging and I said, Look I dont get this sitting together lark, I dont get this silence being somethign we do together, T said what do you feel is happening in the silence? do you feel as if I'm withdrawing or your withdrawing? I said, no none of that, I, I, I want you to reach out to me and you don't. T then said, "I'm saying the silences are ok, but your experiencing them like you did with your mother when you were left alone for hours as a baby and wanting your mother to reach out to you?" and I then felt she had got it, I nodded YES for ages after that then bit my lip because I wanted to cry, felt she had finally been gentle with me and not forced me to see something a different way...the session was over by then and I've carried her understanding me about the silences as a comforter!..she gets me, she won't leave me sitting in agony now, she knows how painful it is for me!! I've got 1 more session tomorrow then thats it for 4weeks...but she knows now.
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Aug 05, 2008, 11:37 AM
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(((((((((((((((((((Mouse)))))))))))))))))))))))
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Aug 05, 2008, 11:58 AM
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Cool!
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Aug 05, 2008, 12:25 PM
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She is a treasure,,,your therapist is mouse. But you know that...
Silence is the great comforter,,if we let it surround us with its warmth...it is such a rare thing,,that we often disturb it with expectations.. You did good... Lenny
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Aug 05, 2008, 12:39 PM
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Aug 05, 2008, 03:42 PM
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Wow she sounds so warm and gentle!
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Aug 05, 2008, 04:08 PM
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(((((Mouse))))))),
</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I asked her what the point in coming was, just to sit in silence </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I hate the silent treatment! I tell my T that it isn't natural because I feel like he sits and stares at me. IRL, silences happen but the whole focus isn't on you. It is difficult to deal with, -- my T actually turned his chair around and promised not to look at me, LOL. The silence was then okay for me. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> T then said, "I'm saying the silences are ok, but your experiencing them like you did with your mother when you were left alone for hours as a baby and wanting your mother to reach out to you?" </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Wow! What an insight! I never thought that the silences could recreate a situation like that. That is very interesting! </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> she gets me, she won't leave me sitting in agony now, she knows how painful it is for me!! </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Congratulations! I don't know if you feel this way, but when this happens with me and my T, I feel like a part of me has been set free. It's like your T recognized how you were feeling, helped you put it into words to communicate your inner experience, and accepted this part of you. It doesn't get much better than that! What a great session! |
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Aug 05, 2008, 04:31 PM
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...and may you be able to hold on to that for the 4 weeks.
i am glad she knows... more, i am glad you know where she was coming from too.kiya
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Aug 06, 2008, 06:54 AM
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Soliree, yes It does feel like a bit of me has been released, you are spot on! I feel now like I maybe even be able to expriecate the silence moments now that bit of me has been "seen"...
Well I'm just about to go to see T now ...so much I want to say to her...hope I can get enought said in this last session.
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