But T... I need you to put me on the bus. :-(

T casually mentioned that he "won't be here" from Wednesday, August 20, to Wednesday, August 27. He mentioned it as if was the most unimportant, small detail in the entire world. We set up a session for Tuesday (the day before his vacation) and I have one for the Sunday before that (which means I'm probably really not going to be able to afford the Tuesday session). Anyway T didn't ask anything about how I felt in regards to him going away, and I totally avoided the topic. Soooo now I have no idea if this is one of those "no contact" vacations, or if it is one in which he'll be around and able to take phone calls.

Last year when he went away, it was the first time in the three years that I have been with him, that he wasn't returning phone calls. During Christmas, he wasn't around, but he was returning phone calls

I realized that he will be away on my first two days of doctoral school (I only go on Tuesdays and Wednesdays). This makes me feel sad, like a little girl who is going off to school and needs her parent to put her on the bus, but the parent is not there.

The morning that I started my job, I was a wreck, to put it mildly. I called T on his cell phone and he helped me so much. I doubt I'm going to be a wreck on my first day of school, but it is a very big deal to me. If this is a "no contact" vacation, it will really suck, because chances are, I would want to talk to him very much on my first day of school.

I don't have a session til next weekend, but I'm going to talk to him in between to find out if there will be any contact or not.

STUPID VACATIONS!! %#@&#! %#@&#! %#@&#! %#@&#! %#@&#! %#@&#! %#@&#! %#@&#!

=( huh! I wonder why he acted like it was no big deal - he KNOWS better!

Believe me, he's gonna hear it from me, lol... I am not sure why he didn't suggest that we process it... I am sure why I didn't suggest it, haha. We did some pretty important and difficult work yetserday, so I think we were just eager to get past the scheduling stuff and get to that... b/c there were some changes that we had to work out in the schedule based on my return to school and him stopping Saturday sessions... so we just sorta went on to the next thing.

yesterday? i thought it was going to be 11 days before you saw him... ? i must have missed a thread.

maybe he is thinking you have progressed enough that you would mention it if you felt you needed to process it? That isn't a criticism... i just remember a certain T (ahem, no idea WHO... couldn't have been you.. could it? ) that told me it was my responsibility to bring up things that i needed or wanted to talk about.

i understand about feeling like you're going off to do something big and he isn't going to be there... i'd hate that. But you know what? Look at how much you HAVE done... yeah, he helped you on your first day of work, but it was YOU who showed up and did your job. You have so much strength.. hang on to that.

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Hello,

I think that any vacation is a big deal. Maybe he hasn't been in therapy himself and doesn't know how it feels.

I know exactly how you feel. My T was on vacation the first two weeks of July. Now she has told me she is going on vacation the last week of July. It is not fair. Especially, since she is also my Pdoc. Also, my back up T is on vacation too.


I think we should hold a revolt and let therapists know everywhere that they can't go on vacation without us!!