[puckyjan56]

has anyone ever had the feeling that your therapist is tire of you and your problems? i feel that way when i'm in her office and when i need her i have no way to get in touch with her. i do get terribly depressed and she is not there alot of the time. i try real hard to understand her situation because she has been diagnosed w/MS and i know that stress makes her fingers and feet feel tingly. i just don't know what to do, i need her...what can i do?............pj56..........xxoo

[Lenny]

Therapists are doors..not rooms...

For us who need them we often want them exclusively,,to respond to our needs and treat those needs as if they were their needs.

But they are human too...they have a list of clients that have varied needs and one of the most profound need for all of us,,is to heal and learn to stand alone.

In teaching that,,a therapist will often seem to be less available than we would like...

What you are feeling is normal and good,,you are in the process..

IMHO.

Lenny

[ECHOES]

I think you're saying a lot here.
Yes, like you I often think T is tired of me and my 'stuff'. I tell her when I'm feeling that way. It segues into my thinking she wants to be rid of me, wishes I'd never shown up, that I'm incredibly boring,, etc.

It does feel different to be missing T when we are away from T versus missing T and knowing T is not in the office. Sometimes weekends and long weekends are hard for me for that reason. Maybe you could journal or spend some quiet time thinking about T to make a connection in between sessions.

I also think you're saying you feel that T's MS diagnosis affects you too. It sounds like you worry about being "too much" for her. But it's up to your T to monitor her stress. It's important that you don't feel you need to do that or a need to be cautious. I hope you'll talk to your T about how you're feeling, even if you and she have already talked about it.

Feeling lonely for T is really so hard

(((((((((((( puckyjan56 ))))))))))))))

I'm sorry your therapist has MS....but it is up to HER to manage that, not you.

It's hard to feel like we need T and then to not be able to reach them. It feels awful.

I'm glad you're posting here so we can support you, even though it's certainly not the same!

Have you been with this T a long time?

[pachyderm]

How to express anger at T and all the others too? That is, express it and not get killed for it?



I do not know the answer.

[Mouse_]

pucky, Yes its hard dealing with those feelings of "need".

[puckyjan56]

thanks everyone, i have been with my therapist for 3 and one half years and i do worry about her illness and what it is doing to her. i will certainly take everyone's advice and it is much appreciated. i will continue here on PC.........pj56.........xxoo