Does a T have to be perfect?

The reason I'm asking is because I was in a waiting room somewhere else, for a totally different reason, but there were therapists working around, and one passed through the room, I was sitting alone there, reading, waiting for someone, and he sort of glanced at me, we exchanged hi's, and he left. But the way he looked at me - I don't know, maybe he heard something about me from the person I was waiting for, I don't know, but he like looked right inside of me. And I felt, holly crap, I wish HE were my therapist!!! It's out of the question, the guy charges astronomical fees, he's a psychiatrist altogether, different field, etc. It's not about him. It's just, I didn't have this "click" with any of my therapists. The one I have now is OK, I guess, no complaints, but not like OMG. And that guy who I just exchanged hi's with, was OMG. Just thinking - maybe I should look for a therapist that feels like that? Maybe I'm wasting my time on a bad match, not realizing it?

Any thoughts?

Hi Curiosus,

I dont think there is such a thing as a "perfect therapist" - there are some that we can be more connected to and be more honest with than others and I think that's like shoes, sometimes you try a pair on and you know after a little work they will fit, othertimes you put on a pair of shoes and they fit straight away.

I have seen 4 Therapists - the first two didnt fit - the third one was great - he helped me to say what I needed to say when I went blank - but he got sick - now i occassionally see another one (no4) when things get too much - she is good but I cant tell her some things that I am thinking

Sometimes I think we may read too much into a glance when we are anxious - do you think this could be the case ? on the other hand the first time I spoke to my T3 on the telephone to make an appointment with him I knew I could trust him from a 2 min phone call - it's very confusing - take Care P7

Hi!
I don't know how helpful I'm going to be with this because I've only have one T. The way I look at it is: If you feel ok with your T hang in there. Relationships are like the stock market, there's going to be ups and downs you have to be in it for the long haul.
Hope this helps,
Angel

A perfect therapist: yes, it helps.

Hey guys,

Thanks for input!

I love the shoes analogy. Only - imagine you never wore high heels, and you try on a pair. Hardly keeping your balance. Do they fit?

I've had one "sneakers" T, many years ago. But it's been many years since, I changed, and what I have now sounds like what other people have with their Ts. So I took it as, you know, I was younger and healthier then, so it's pointless to compare. But then this guy I saw felt like that "good" T I had years back. So I started wondering.

Hanging on there - yeah, it's a point. On the other hand, I did waste a lot of time with totally hopeless Ts, just because I wasn't sure and felt I needed to give them a fair chance. Just don't want it to happen again...

Anyway, thanks for input!!!

they may fit but eventually they will ruin your feet, lol

take it from me (who once fell down some stairs because of her VERY nice looking sling back heels), sneakers may not be glamourous but they're a good deal.

besides, if you can get those sneakers that strike sparks when you walk... very cool