[YoonaxLee]

I dont know where to put this....I read all the threads about attachment and i can relate to all of them...it makes me want to scream because my attachment is not with my therapist...its with my tennis coach....Therapists understand the processes of attachment and the way to handle them....I try so hard to explain my feelings to my coach and i think it makes her uncomfortable...she already things im unstable as it is...how the hell do u explain to someone that their approval means the world to you.....or that u think about them alllll the time and u get jealous of every single person that gets their attention besides you....or how, the moments u get with them can either make ur day absolutely fabulous orr ruin it by oneee little thing that they do...I have tried so hard to let her in...but she doesnt understand it and i dont know how else to explain it....the emotions attached to this are SO strong....i seek negative attention from her...ill act out like a 5 year old to have her come over and console me....I went to counseling with her just so i could get 5 mintues before and after to be alone with her...shes everything to me...,,,But, should i just keep it to myself....thats so hard because if i text her and her answer isnt what i want...i get really upset....then i have to see her hours later and she doesnt understand why i cant look her in the eye......
i just need advicee i suppose

[jexa]

I understand. I do this too, with teachers. I used to be worse. I guess I've just learned that those feelings can be expressed in other ways, on my own (through my own private world, my poetry, my journal), that I should look at the way others gain approval from that teacher and mirror what they do instead of losing my cool and getting scarily obsessed. I used to stalk teachers sometimes.. I don't do that anymore. People are still on pedestals but I can keep my behavior in check.

I wouldn't tell her if I were you. Maybe.. notice your feelings of attachment to her. When you feel yourself needing her, what does it feel like in your body? Can you take a few moments with that feeling before you act on it? Maybe take five deep breaths while you just try to locate the feeling in your body when you feel the need to be with her, or when she doesn't give you the answer you want, and see if you can choose the right way to act after you take a short time-out.

Hope this helps. I know, it's not easy.